[Zomblover]

Here it goes... I've come here because I need help with what I should do about one of my coworkers.
First off, you need to know that i am a super sweet person and cannot flat out tell someone to go to hell. And also for some reason, I attract crazy people...
I work in a call center where there are rows of cubicles, this particular coworker is in my row and was hired at the same time that I was. She does not get social queues, meaning that if I don't look at her, because I am busy, she will just stand in front of me until I am done my work or until I comment on what she is saying, if I am watching a show on my lunch she will come up and just start talking to me without me looking at her or talk to her, the same if I am reading a book, talking to other people or doing my job. She seems like the kind of person that always needs attention as there is always drama in her life that she feels the need to share with everyone around us...
The real issues all started when I was passing out my wedding invitations. She walked around to everyone's desk looking at them, then went back to her desk and didn't really talk to me. I should have thought that this was great, but being the person that I am, I felt bad that she was literally the only one whom didn't receive an invitation. The next day I brought her one... she came to the wedding, she and the guy she came with caused a scene in the parking lot that I was unaware of until long after my honeymoon when I found out from a friend.
To make a longer story short, she started dating one of my roommates (my house, he lives in my basement) and it's all down hill from there.
She is trying to create a sense of familiarity that has never been there. She started off by telling me how my roommate was so amazing, I say "okay" and then go back to my work, literally that's all I would say. She started asking what she should get him for Christmas and I'd tell her that "I don't know, I don't hang out with him, we don't know each other like that..." she will continue.
She now, for some reason thinks that it's okay to tell me completely out of the blue that my roommate asked her to get her nipples pierced and how she's not going to do it. My response was very wide eyes "okay?" Then looking away, VERY obviously feeling awkward, to do my job.
It has gone even further and I don't know if it's my fault or not... I invited both her and my roommate out for dinner because I wanted to bring up how uncomfortable she was making me... I had a little too much to drink, tried to bring it up but her boyfriend just shut me down when I tried to say something. Because she was drinking with me, I feel that she thinks that we've bonded, BUT she didn't come over my house again for months...
From there here's what has gotten worse... I dyed my hair, she did hers the same color, she asked my advice on where to get tattoos, I said I don't know, but she looked at mine as said thst she wanted to get something similar to mine in the same location. A few weeks later after I got a new tattoo (that I had been talking about months before she brought hers up...), she said that she wants to get one in the same place and just as big (a half sleeve).
She started talking about me at work to a friend saying how her and I should be closer friends and that she thinks that I shouldn't be friends with another coworker (who I am very close to) and that I don't hit 'like' on her Facebook posts like I do hers, so now she's stalking me on FB, this is such teenage behavior and I'm 30... well, my friend told me that this happened and I caller her (the problem chick) out on it, she denied it then sent my close friend a txt stating "you know that I don't have a problem with you, right?"
Most recently she told me how she has framed my wedding invitation and pictures from my wedding and has them hanging in her house.
Just last night, her and her boyfriend stopped by so that he could get some clothes then go back to her place (again, it has been months since the last time)... I had no idea that she was coming to my house so I was having a nice Saturday night drinking... it's impossible for me to be rude when drinking and I don't want to make someone else's guest to feel weird, so I was super nice to her... since then she's has texted my over 5 times.
How do I tell this woman that I see everyday at work and who dates my roommate that she is making me super uncomfortable?

[Lost_in_the_woods]

Yes sounds like you got yourself a Single White Female situation here. Proceed with caution! Histrionic.. in big flashing lights!!! I don't know.. I've met some needy people in my day..heck I'm sure I can come across as weird awkward needy and annoying sometimes...and I am dxd with borderline pd...but I have never fixated on anyone that I barely knew at the time. I can get pretty needy and attention seeking when I perceive I am being abandoned..but not towards acquaintances or co-workers or well anyone!..really except for a few instances in my marriage... yeah I really can not find a way to relate to the girl your talking abouts insane feats of boundary crossings! I always try to think that in general people who are attention seeking are really just lonely sad and trying to connect find a friend...but then there are stories like yours...that goes way beyond social awkwardness self esteem issues and loneliness...
This is straight up..get a restraining order, new job, move across the country if possible, shutdown all email phone #s and so I also media accounts go into witness protection kinda territory! I don't know..I would just Run!
But on a nicer trying to maintain peace and boundaries level of talk here..Talk to your roomate. What is he like personality wise? I mean he's dating her moving stuff to her place..sounds like it's going ok...so what's his deal? Maybe she isn't really crazy??..maybe she really just wants to be your friend and is completely clueless when it comes to how to go about this..so she's trying all this random stuff to engage in conversation...and hopefully she didn't actually frame and hang your wedding invite in her home...maybe she just an over the top attempt to compliment you??...Or it has some other significance to her such as the event she met your roommate at? ...or the day she got in a fight in a parking lot and decided to finally leave her abusive ex??.. I'm just grasping at straws here obviously. Cuz...Me i got a whole barrel of crazy monkeys up in my head...and I certainly know how to make myself look like an idiot in public, social anxieties awkwardness you betcha!...but either you are misinterpreting her behaviour as directed solely at you and because she annoys you in general you are maybe taking her out of context???...or B***H BE KaRazy!...in which case run! run far far away! But I am curious about your roomate..if she is really that nuts would he be with her? Moving in to her place?..u tell me cuz I don't know him....
One last possibility...maybe she is nuts, but maybe she is also confused...maybe she has romantic feelings towards you and hasn't ever felt attracted to another woman before and just doesn't know how to act??..or because she has never felt like that before maybe she says and acts like this then as soon as she walks away she's baffled and beating herself up for not understanding why she gets awkward chokes up and blurts out nonsense??..I really have no clue...just some thoughts...but honestly if she makes you really uncomfortable and continues this stalker like behaviour..Please Please Be Very Careful! She could be dangerous or violent..and trying to define your boundaries with someone like that can in fact cause them to snap and things could get ugly and dangerous..I really don't like to believe that people are really like that...especially since I have suffered my whole life with many mental health issues..and some bizarre stuff at that..but, I hate the thought that I might be perpetuating the stigma of those living with mental illness to be dangerous. Because I know I'm not and I don't think I met too many that truly are..we are mostly harmless...just odd and off putting to some..so just tread carefully, talk to your roomate, and trust your instincts
Hope my drifting round in circles mess of a brain helped you in some fashion?...
-LITW

[Crazy Hitch]

Hard call.

You say you throw out social cues that you're trying not to engage in conversation - but there could be mixed messages.

After all, in her eyes, she went to your wedding, you're friends on Facebook, she texts your private number, you've hung out for drinks ...

If you're serious about distancing yourself, block her on your mobile number and remove her from Facebook.