[brokenandalone1234]

I was on facebook tonight and saw where my mom had posted a status at 4:01pm yesterday and it was pictures of her and my step sister out at a nice steakhouse for my step sister's 25th birthday. I was mad right away and even left a mean comment. I am so mad about it because my mom just calls me on my birthday and that's it. I get nothing else and the last 3 years on my birthday I have had to call her first. I haven't gotten even a homemade birthday dinner from her since I was 19. Am I right for being mad it seems like ever since she married my step dad who I hate when I was 14 all she cares about is my step dad and step sister. It's like she forgot about me and my sister who she gave birth to. I am getting married in 9 months and I invited my mom but like I told my fiance and his family it would shock me more if my mom comes then if she doesn't honestly it wouldn't bother me if she doesn't come because I am expecting her not to come.

Yes, I think you have a right to be angry about this!

I think being emotionally neglected and abused by our female parental unit has the most damaging effect on children ...

No matter what their age is!

I also think it's atrocious that some "M" words neglect and abuse their children in this manner!

I'm sorry you've been wounded this way!

[Rose76]

If I were in your situation, I would be very hurt. I hope your upcoming marriage will allow you to buikd for yourself the family connectedness that you don't get from your mom. Also, maybe your sister and you can take care of each other in a special way to ease the hurt that you both feel.

It's hard for me to read this as anything other than flat out rejection. Maybe it's time to give up on getting from your mom what she just doesn't seem willing to give.

It's understandable that you want to call out to your mother, "What about me . . . I am your child too." Hard as it may be. I would advize you to stop doing that. I would even consider not following your mother on facebook. Or, at least, not post angry comments. If someone ignores me, there comes a point where I am going to stop paying attention to them.

Life is long and your mom has many things ahead of her, one of which is growing older and someday losing her health. Someday she may regret not building bonds of love with your sister and you. Someday it may be your mom who is in need of feeling cared about. What goes around comes around. This step-sister of yours may someday not turn out to be the perfect daughter your mom might think she is right now.

The less your mom does for you, the less you owe her. Invest your time, attention and love in others who value you. Maybe it's time to give up on trying to get love and recognition from mom. Hard, I know. But letting go might bring you more peace.

[MickeyCheeky]

That sounds horrible.. I'm really sorry you've had to put up with this.

[brokenandalone1234]

Originally Posted by Lil1scoop

I'm sorry. You have a right to be mad and I think it's good you expressed it on FB. Your mother may not realize what she is doing. She may be trying so hard to show her acceptance of your stepsister that she has neglected her own family.

can you talk to your mom about this? Try meeting her for lunch and talk about how you feel tossed aside. Give your mom a chance to explain herself.

I have tried I could see her trying to show her acceptance of my stepsister if her and my step dad hadn't been married for 12 years. I was 14 when they got married and my step sister was 13.

[nicoleflynn]

You have a right to ALL of your feelings.Sometimes family isn't blood....but the people who love us.