I feel angry with my friend. I think I need time to cool off. She is not a bad person. But I frequently feel upset with her (I don't yell at her or anything inappropriate like that!). What happened was we were at lunch a few weeks ago, and we were talking about her ex who is bisexual. I made a comment which led her to ask me if I myself am bisexual. I felt like it was insensitive and it caught me off guard. I started talking about myself which I felt really uncomfortable doing, and looking back, wish I'd just been like "I'm not talking about that." She wasn't even listening when I was talking, which was the worst part. Her eyes glazed over, and she looked distracted. I brought it up to her today, and she apologized, which was nice. But also blamed me for like, she said something like "Well you get really quiet about certain subjects." I have no idea what she even meant, I just felt blamed. This other thing she does is talk over me. Like on the phone, I wasn't even done talking and she started talking. Its like she waits till I start talking, to talk, too. I'm not saying she does it on purpose though. But it's really frustrating.

She is my friend, but I feel the need to step back and cool down. I know she herself has mental health issues. But I think I just need something else from a friend right now? I'm sick of feeling hurt by her too, and I don't know. I don't know if my expectations for friendship are too high or distorted. Something tells me I'm fine. But I am wondering. I do think it's ok to step back.

I erased what I wrote here. I can't even today.

Maybe I'm thinking about it too much. I don't know.

I think that we all want to be heard---it makes us feel validated. When someone talks over us, we are not being heard, and there is no validation. It's as if we are speaking and being ignored. This hurts! I don't think you're reading too much into it. Maybe your friend isn't doing this on purpose, but that doesn't mean you have to be ok with it. Can you say to her "I feel hurt when you talk over me. Could you please let me finish what I am saying before you interrupt?" Because yes, she's pretty much interrupting you which is a rude habit....we all do it from time to time as it can be difficult to judge the pace of a conversation sometimes, but I know many will apologize when it's done by mistake.

[Crazy Hitch]

Looking at what you have said, I don't think she asked the question with serious intent and was merely asking it off the cuff as the topic of bisexuals had come up in the conversation.

We all have different "comfort levels" in conversations; and to be honest; I would't have a problem if a friend asked about my sexuality. But hey that's just me. But she could be like that too.

I have a knack for sticking my foot in my mouth at the most inappropriate times sometimes