[rdgrad15]

Ever have an encounter with someone who talks to you like they would talk to a little child, like a three year old? I never understood why it happens and it is annoying. Like, in past experiences, I could be doing something by myself and someone would walk up to me and be like, "You're all alone" in a very baby like way, as if they were talking to a toddler. I don't get why people feel the need to do that. It is like they find a reason to feel sorry for me when I don't need pity.I actually rather be alone than be with someone who talks to me like that. Anyone understand why it happens and how you deal with it?

I usually just ignore it but in the one particular case when someone said I am all alone in a baby like voice, I actually said I wanted to be alone. Which was partially true. I was alone at that particular moment but I was about to go socialize with some people. I was just standing off to the side at that moment, setting stuff up for a club event. I felt bad, but I said I wanted to be alone. I really didn't, but I'd much rather be alone than with someone who is going to talk to me like I'm a toddler. I've had other cases where people just start talking to me like I"m a three year old as well, but usually I just went along with it. Anyone understand this? Just confusing and annoying. Also how do you deal with it? Do you say something or ignore it? I just find this insulting in my opinion when people act that way.

[Erebos]

Things like that invariably bring out the sarky queen in me.
I usually look all around and look utterly horrified for a second before coming back at them with " No sht Sherlock"
I know it's antagonistic, but really, speak to me like I am a victim waiting to happen, it almost guarantees a reply on the offensive.
I am not suggesting it as a course of action, it's so instinctive with me I don't even think.
I suppose if I stopped to think first I would just ask them why they do it.
Maybe they don't realize, perhaps to them it's how they think you express concern?
Hope you find a way to just let it slide by you, it's not really worth getting bent out of shape unless it's a daily occurrence. In which case I would definitely address it.

All the best.

I cannot stand condescension and patronizing remarks. I think depending on the situation, there are different reasons why it happens. People don't seem, to me, to be malicious, but maybe it's an insecurity or ignorance thing on their part. Still annoying! Some people may actually think, subconsciously, or consciously! That they are better. Which is such a joke.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

OMG! I hate people like that too!
Like starry sky said I know usually they do not have malicious intent...but it is obnoxious!
And like Erobos it makes me irate.. I generally find it easiest to just smile sweetly and "say thanx, but I'm fine."...though inside I'm screaming "really dumbass??!! Do I look like I was born yesterday??!!..oh your concerned..right...sure. you can give me a ride!!..and I'll also leave my purse and my drink in your care while I'm at it!!"
Seriously if I'm alone..I probably want to be..and even if I did want company it's not from the person who speaks to me in a tone like their offerings me some candy!

¤HVK (lost)

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Lost_in_the_woods

OMG! I hate people like that too!
Like starry sky said I know usually they do not have malicious intent...but it is obnoxious!
And like Erobos it makes me irate.. I generally find it easiest to just smile sweetly and "say thanx, but I'm fine."...though inside I'm screaming "really dumbass??!! Do I look like I was born yesterday??!!..oh your concerned..right...sure. you can give me a ride!!..and I'll also leave my purse and my drink in your care while I'm at it!!"
Seriously if I'm alone..I probably want to be..and even if I did want company it's not from the person who speaks to me in a tone like their offerings me some candy!

¤HVK (lost)

Exactly! Usually I am the kind of person that waits for people to come and talk to me which may result in me being alone for a bit. But yeah, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who is going to talk to me as if she were offering a toddler candy.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by starrysky

I cannot stand condescension and patronizing remarks. I think depending on the situation, there are different reasons why it happens. People don't seem, to me, to be malicious, but maybe it's an insecurity or ignorance thing on their part. Still annoying! Some people may actually think, subconsciously, or consciously! That they are better. Which is such a joke.

Exactly! It is really annoying. Just like what the other poster said, I usually nicely say I am fine but internally I am so annoyed that they would talk down to me like they are talking to a toddler.