[RA721]

Hello! I'm a long-time lurker but have never posted before.

I have a complicated relationship with a friend. In the past I idealized her tremendously but I have gotten over that. I don't think she thinks the relationship is complicated, but I overanalyze everything. I'm quite introverted and don't have a lot of close friends. My husband is my true best friend.

There have been a lot of ups and downs (in my head) about this friendship. Sometimes I just want to drop her as a friend so I will stop thinking about it. But we've been friends for many years and because of where we live, my job, etc., I will continue to see her quite regularly. I'm just so tired of overanalyzing what she does and if she even likes me. I think the friendship means more to me than to her.

Thank you for listening. I'm not sure how to get myself out of this situation.

[healingme4me]

Do you ever have opportunity to go for lunch or coffee? If so, how do these interactions go? What does she do or not do that create the feelings that you have?

I'm just going to throw a few things out there that may or may not fit...

Do you have anxiety struggles in your life or is this sort of dynamic limited to your interaction with this one friend? I'm asking about anxiety as I suffer from anxiety and I know that I tend to over-analyze relationships and whether or not people really like me.

Do you think it would help you if you were to branch out and make new friends with other people? Maybe it would show (prove) to yourself that people do like you for you, and its not just this one person who doesn't like you but hangs out with you anyway (for whatever reason). I'm not saying that is what your friend is doing, but it sounds like you think she doesn't like you for you. (I hope this makes sense, sorry, I'm quite tired.)

Maybe I don't clearly understand the situation, and for that I am sorry----just trying to throw a few ideas out there.