[rdgrad15]

Does anyone else get annoyed when someone they hang out with gloats how much they like a certain friend and how close they feel? There is nothing wrong with having other friends, in fact, I'd be pretty nervous about hanging out with someone who literally had no other friends because I wouldn't know if it was genuine or not. But at the same time, I feel like it is ride when someone gloats to the point where it seems like they'd much rather be with the other person than me. I have a casual friend like this. She constantly talks about how a certain friend changed her life, even though she never had a bad life. She just makes it sound way more dramatic than it is. And this friend is someone different, not the same one I've mentioned before.

She also talks about how much she wishes she was around to hang out, especially when I'm there. It is the worst when she is upset, she'll say stuff like she wishes her best friend was there even if I am there helping her out. She says I'm her best friend too but I don't really agree. That is fine that she feels closer to someone else, but I feel like it is rude when she makes it seem like she much rather have her than me there. I think she should have more respect and appreciation. Also when we hang out, she is on her phone a lot, but when she is with her best friend, she is not on her phone. Makes me feel like she doesn't appreciate me

Anyone have a friend like this? I actually have questioned whether or not she really even likes me as a friend. Even though she feels much closer to another friend, I still feel like she should appreciate and respect my time with her just as much as she does with her best friend and even other people she may hang out with. It has gotten to the point where I no longer try to help her out when she's upset since she just responds to it by being sort of nasty and just stating how she wants someone else there with her.

She said she doesn't mean it that way and she likes me as a best friend too but I don't really agree. Actions speak louder than words. Anyone else have this experience? How would you deal with it? Do you think it is rude of her to act this way? I just feel like if she really did like me as a friend, she would respect my time with her more. She texts me a lot when she has nothing to do, but that's it. She doesn't text when she is with other people, but she does when she is with me. Do you think she is being rude and inconsiderate? Just wondered. Like I said, that is fine that she feels closer to another friend, but I feel like if she really did like me as a friend, she would respect my time and appreciate my efforts to hang out with her and even help her at times more.

[Erebos]

People are weird.

Does this other friend actually exist?

If so why isn't she helping her out all the time.

We have a name for people like her,"fair weather friends."

Turns up when it's convenient for her or she needs something.

I will assume there are positives to this relationship.

Just accept it for what it is a casual friendship. Don't invest too much and you wont get hurt.
All the best.

I agree, keep this friendship casual.

This person doesn't know what it means to be a friend!

And worst case scenario, she's like that crazy Jody Foster movie where the one friend was obsessed with the other friend to the point of actually making herself BE the other friend.

I wouldn't invest much in this friendship.

[MickeyCheeky]

Yeah.. I think it's a bit rude. :/

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by GoldenWaves

I agree, keep this friendship casual.

This person doesn't know what it means to be a friend!

And worst case scenario, she's like that crazy Jody Foster movie where the one friend was obsessed with the other friend to the point of actually making herself BE the other friend.

I wouldn't invest much in this friendship.

Do you mean Single White Female? Lolz, I have been there actually. That wasn't Jody Foster though, it was Bridget Fonda.

Seesaw

Originally Posted by seesaw

Do you mean Single White Female? Lolz, I have been there actually. That wasn't Jody Foster though, it was Bridget Fonda.

Seesaw

Whoops! Yep, Single White Female. I always get those two actors confused!

[~Christina]

Is this the same girl you have had problems with forever now ?

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Do you think she is being rude and inconsiderate?

Yep. She is either blatantly disrespecting or subtly manipulating you. Either way I would kick her to the curb. You deserve better.