[wondering1234]

It’s my understanding that people who struggle with anxiety and depression are often set back when it is the time of year that a certain traumatic event happened. Sadly, it is this time of year for my boyfriend and I am struggling to know the best way to be there for him. In the past, I’ve tried my absolute best to be steady as a rock when he begins to feel upset, but lately, it seems there are more days where he is stressed and anxious than when he is his usual self. I’m not trying to “fix” him but I do wonder if there is a different or more helpful way for me to be there for him when he needs extra support. Any advice is welcome, thank you!

[it'sgrowtime]

It helps if your boyfriend is aware that his mood has changed, and owns it. It's helpful if he asks for specific support that you are comfortable with and willing to give. He might need support from others, too. Also, does he need outside help like a support group? Counseling?
How does your boyfriend show his anxiety and depression? You are feeling pressure to make him feel better, but that is his job, in my opinion. I will listen to my husband, and encourage him, compliment his efforts, give him extra hugs, or let him be alone to write or exercise, sleep, etc. I might find a movie for us to watch that will let him cry. I'll make comfort food. But it's important to keep doing what you need to do for your own life, too. It's good to be independent!