[Macd123]

Well I have a date with a woman who has three kids (not miine). I've never dated a woman with children and I need feedback on if this can be a positive experience. I know it's only a date but if it goes well I may want to take her out again. I'm nervous.....thanks

[dlantern]

The objective reason of can you handle dating a person with children needs to answered by you. I would try to judge less, but also knowing what you can deal with is extremely important. If you can, don't lead on. Most of us out here aren't in need of a man to tell the children what to do or need a daddy. Be certain, don't take it for granted and if she can't express herself then move on if you are that type with words on the board she needs to be kind of smart as well.

[NEGuyfromBritain]

Is a piece of string long? It's totally dependent on how the kids have been brought up and how involved she is with them and how much she wants you to see them. my ex has two kids and I loved them almost as much as my own, she was the only thing that caused stress in our relationship not the kids.
That was my experience though, you just never know. It's like asking the question, "I'm going on a date with a woman, will I marry her?" Who knows. Life is a risk, you either take the risk and live a little or don't and protect yourself. Neither decision is wrong, they're just decisions. Good Luck!

[~Christina]

Don't overthink this.... it's a date.

Proud of you getting out there Macd !

[Hawkru]

How do you feel about children? Do you see yourself becoming part of a family? If you have no children, I think this could be tough for you. The woman is not free to come and go and she pleases.

[gayleggg]

I married a man with two children and I have one. Just know that the children will always come first. Even into adulthood. One of his daughter's is mentally ill and has a brain injury and is not self sufficient, she is also a drug addict.

My husband and I constantly disagree on how to treat the situation. So when you get involved with someone who has kids you inherit the kids too. The good and bad.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, kids are a big responsabilty.. I'd suggest to think about it and see where to go from there.

[Trippin2.0]

Well if the lady in question is in your age group, then her kids should surely be adults or at least not actual kiddos anymore right?

So if that's the case, I really wouldn't worry about it, its not like you have to get involved with raising anyone, should this date turn into a relationship.

I am guessing these 'kids' are well beyond rearing.

Like others say, it depends on the age of 'kids', if they are adults or just about so then a lot less to think about.

If they are dependent, at home, then obviously much more to think about. In that case she will come as a package, and likely with an ex on the scene too.

In the meantime I would just get to know her, she's a person in her own right most importantly. Have fun.

[Macd123]

Thanks I'm not backing out ☺