[brokenandalone1234]

I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years now but as of lately I have felt he doesn't respect me at all. I just started this new job 3 weeks ago and there is a supervisior at my job that is highly attractive and very sweet. I have developed feelings for him. When he comes into work I get so red from blushing like a cherry tomatoe. I want to tell my fiance that if he doesn't start respecting me more I will leave but I love my fiance very much. What should I do?

[MickeyCheeky]

Why do you feel like he doesn't respect you? What does he do?

[brokenandalone1234]

Well I started a security job 3 weeks ago and last night he told me have fun at your loser job. Then said go do your loser thing and come home. I called him for almost an hour on my lunch and he didn't answer. When I called him on my last break he said it was cause he was mad at me and I needed to learn to take our relationship more seriously.

[MickeyCheeky]

Oh, I'm sorry he's treating you this way have you tried ask him why he's acting this way? Perhpas there's something you two need to work on.

[brokenandalone1234]

Not yet I need to get some sleep as I work 3rds and haven't been to bed yet but he agreed to talk laterI

[seesaw]

Well, he shouldn't call your job a loser job. That's unfair. I mean, what does he do for work?

Why does he think you don't take the relationship seriously?

Originally Posted by brokenandalone1234

Well I started a security job 3 weeks ago and last night he told me have fun at your loser job. Then said go do your loser thing and come home. I called him for almost an hour on my lunch and he didn't answer. When I called him on my last break he said it was cause he was mad at me and I needed to learn to take our relationship more seriously.

From the above he sounds verbally abusive.

Even if he is mad at you that is not an excuse for being verbally abusive.

[Bill3]

I just want to congratulate you on getting and starting your new job!

[brokenandalone1234]

Originally Posted by seesaw

Well, he shouldn't call your job a loser job. That's unfair. I mean, what does he do for work?

Why does he think you don't take the relationship seriously?

He works in a factory. He thinks any job that doesn't pay at least $11 is a loser job. He thinks that because I am doing what I can for work and it only pays $9.50 an hour so he feels like I don't pull my own weight so I don't take the relationship seriously.

[Bill3]

It sounds like your fiance puts you down a lot.

What do you love about him?

[brokenandalone1234]

He is funny, smart, attractive, and for the most part a nice guy unless he is angry.

[avlady]

he shouldn't be treating you this way, it is abusive and he's probably jealous now that you are in a new place in your life.

Originally Posted by brokenandalone1234

Well I started a security job 3 weeks ago and last night he told me have fun at your loser job. Then said go do your loser thing and come home. I called him for almost an hour on my lunch and he didn't answer. When I called him on my last break he said it was cause he was mad at me and I needed to learn to take our relationship more seriously.

If any man said that to me, I'd end the relationship immediately even if we were engaged to be married. There is absolutely NO WAY I will marry a man who has no respect for me. Your fiance doesn't respect you. Leave him. Or you will regret it.

[~Christina]

I agree that he's being abusive, but ....have both of you sat down and had a serious conversation about this situation?

Since no one has pointed out yet , this supervisor and how you have feelings for him ..... I'm sorry but you need to either get back on track with your fiancée or end it and be single for a bit to figure out what is important and what you will and will not allow in a relationship.

If you do throw out the " if you don't respect me more I will leave" make sure you actually can/ will leave as in housing, paying bills etc. on you're own.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by brokenandalone1234

He works in a factory. He thinks any job that doesn't pay at least $11 is a loser job. He thinks that because I am doing what I can for work and it only pays $9.50 an hour so he feels like I don't pull my own weight so I don't take the relationship seriously.

Wait, he makes $1.50 more than you an hour, and feels you aren't pulling your weight?

He sounds like a jerk, TBH.

I'm not saying leave him, but if he can't change the way he treats you, maybe you need to get out of the relationship. Not because of the attraction to your supervisor, but because your current BF is verbally abusive and you deserve better.

Seesaw

[Bill3]

He is funny, smart, attractive, and for the most part a nice guy unless he is angry.

Thanks!

How often is he angry?

How angry was he when he spoke of your "loser job"?