[eyesclosed]

She called and asked if I would get rid of my cats before we got married. RED FLAG I told her no and called off our marriage. We had talked about my 2 cats and dog she said she was okay with it but didn't want the dog to sleep in the bed. It was hard but I was willing too, and I done it for her. After I called the wedding off her sister called. Then asked if I would talk too my now ex to be wife. Many tears will melt my heart and the cats were staying. Yeah right she had it planned how to get rid of them passively aggressive. With in the first week of our marraige when I came home from work I was like wow. She had put thumb tacks through paper and had them spread out on the dining table and kitchen counter top. Lucky the jumper cat buttercup usually doesn't jump up there it could off been messy. My dog ran when she heard her car pull up, and snowwhite was a one person cat. I told her let snowwhite come to u I'm the only person who she let's pick her up. One day she decided she would pick up snowy she got bit right in the hand went to urgent care and I got a call and it was the place the hospital contacts when a animal bites a person. they said I should have the cat put down. Well why not both because I really don't want to see buttercup with thumb tacks in her paws. This was only the begining of 10 years of it's not my fault it's yours.

[Unrigged64072835]

Sorry you had to go through that.

[Thunder Bow]

Always pay attention to those RED FLAGS!

[Big Mama]

Thats so sad. I am sorry you had to lose a furry friend to a reason like that.

[Travelinglady]

Good grief. Are you sure your wife is "normal"? I think animal abuse is a bad sign. ( I am a big cat lover. I think if my current hubby had said "no cats," then it would have been a deal breaker for sure.) Do you have children?

[shaggy dog]

I'm so sorry. Pets can be the best of friends and I hate to hear this. I'll be sending thoughts your way. shaggy

[eyesclosed]

This woman really drove me ------- blackie my dog didn't last long strrrrrrrress i feel bad i put blackie out of my bed for this woman thanks

[crimsoncat]

I am so sad reading this, my h wasn't a huge fan of cats but never would have done anything like that in fact he accepted he is last in the pecking order and grew to like them so much he has his own now.

[Apokolips]

I'd sooner put down my spouse than my animals. I'm a rescuer if my partner can't handle that then why be with me?

[seaecho]

Exactly! ^^^

[eyesclosed]

I agree I still feel guilty about this

[-jimi-]

My friend almost did this. She had a GF that didn't want her cat and dog around. I am her best friend. I used threats I know it is not good but I really felt what I felt. I told her, if you do away with your pets because a crush, I will never, ever speak to you again. We had been friends for a long long time. The pets stayed. I know if she had done what he had planned she would have regretted it.

I feel so bad when our furry friends get caught up in the middle. But it seems like your ex abused you mentally and the pets physically. It can be really really hard to escape mental abuse and clear your mind to what is happening. It is so easy to be dragged along and feel that the emotional abuse is normal.

When I was emotionally and fiscally abused by a friend's friend I never questioned the madness when I was inside the situation. It had to stop for me to realize this wasn't normal and healthy. It also cost some pets their lives. She came live inside mine and the friend's house (not the same friend as above), and brought her cats. Her male cat made her female cat pregnant and have kittens, then she took off with the male cat and my friend also took off. I was left with a hungry cat mama that was nursing and I was dirt poor, I only had macaroni to eat for the longest of time. So I fed her macaroni so she would at least have something, but thinking back I don't understand myself. I could have gone to the neighbors and asked if they had more proper food for a nursing cat. But I was just - so used to the situation.

After a long while the owner came back and right then I was not home so I had no idea what she planned, she got a hunter to shoot the mama cat and the kittens. I feel naive that I didn't see that coming.

So here is warm thoughts to all cats and dogs and other animals that are now not in their original bodies anymore, hoping they are in a good place, surrounding them with light. I'm so so sorry for all wrong I did because I did not know better. I did my best but it wasn't good enough. I hope you can all forgive me, my furry friends. Much much love to you. And an extra hope for forgiveness to a cat I had long ago. I'm so sorry I slapped you. I wasn't mentally well then and I didn't yet know what mental illness was, I was so oblivious.

I have this feeling that you, furry friends, know how humans struggle and that you are above this, more developed in this way. So I have hopes that you understand. I truly think you do.

Hugs to Eyesclosed if you want them.

[eyesclosed]

You know I didn't want to say anything like that in the post. I can remember thinking I should have had her put down and kept my pets. I never had a thought like that before. She never had any empathy for me during my grieving . Sometimes people will hurt themselves to get what they want.

[Apokolips]

I've dedicated the last ten years of my life to rehabilitating severely abused and neglected animals. That will always be my life and it's nonnegotiable.

[Artchic528]

Exactly. I feel sorry for those poor cats...

[Flaming Maverick]

What a horrible person.

[Erebos]

Having worked in animal rescue for over a decade it am s,sad to say some people will always assume an animals life is worth less than a humans.

How wrong they are.

[~Christina]

I'm seriously speechless

[HALLIEBETH87]

Wait...what? I can't comprehend this

[seesaw]

I'm also an animal rescuer, and any significant other of mine would have to accept that. When I'm out on the town, stray animals find me, and I rescue them and either find their owners or take them to a no-kill shelter.

I don't understand how you could put down two cats for a human being. Why wouldn't you just find them new homes or at least surrender them to a shelter? Why was it necessary to kill them?

I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but I don't understand why the animal must die.

And yes, your wife is sadistic if she was trying to injure the cats using thumb tacks. She deserved to get bit by that cat.

Seesaw

[Crazy Hitch]

Just .... no words .............

[eyesclosed]

This is my fault I should have stuck to my first response and not married her. Blackie, Buttercup and snowwhite were my family left from my first marriage and were a comfort for me in between the time I met my second ex-tobe. It's been a year and a half and the divorce is still not done this happened over ten years ago. You must see now she is a passive aggressive narcissist. The humane society told me I had to put snowy asleep because it's a city ordinance I had no choice, There are so many cats at the humane society I know up to 90% are put down I was not going to put Buttercup in a cage or let my ex-to be torment her she also would have missed snowy it was the start of what is still a abusive relationship that still has no closure. I feel like I have to defend my self now after posting this. I have a dog now I took him out of a bad situation. I spoke only kind encouraging words to him for trust and training. I'm convinced that it applies to us as well it's the only real cure for mental illness.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by eyesclosed

This is my fault I should have stuck to my first response and not married her. Blackie, Buttercup and snowwhite were my family left from my first marriage and were a comfort for me in between the time I met my second ex-tobe. It's been a year and a half and the divorce is still not done this happened over ten years ago. You must see now she is a passive aggressive narcissist. The humane society told me I had to put snowy asleep because it's a city ordinance I had no choice, There are so many cats at the humane society I know up to 90% are put down I was not going to put Buttercup in a cage or let my ex-to be torment her she also would have missed snowy it was the start of what is still a abusive relationship that still has no closure. I feel like I have to defend my self now after posting this. I have a dog now I took him out of a bad situation. I spoke only kind encouraging words to him for trust and training. I'm convinced that it applies to us as well it's the only real cure for mental illness.

You don't have to defend yourself. Sorry it was just shocking for some of us, I guess.

[eyesclosed]

I should have divorced her right away. I had 2 things other than her I had going on in my life my dad was on hospice dying from cancer and my job for 18 yrs was closing. I was not happy in the marriage the whole time I really think she might be a witch. I know I feel guilty all the time so I feel like I have too defend my dumb mistake of the marriage.

[divine1966]

I have never heard of people being required to put cats down when they bite their owners. Cats scratch and bite often. There would be a lot of dead cats. I wonder if your wife told them a different story in order to get rid of the cats