[TwinButterfly]

As the title says. On Saturday, he suddenly broke contact from me, and didn't say a word why. I spent all weekend wondering what I did wrong to him.

On Monday, I finally spoke to him face to face at work. He asked me what was wrong, so I asked him the same thing. He explained that he was in a tough place at the moment. I asked if that was why he dumped me, and he said no. I said, "You don't do that to someone you claim to like."

He said that if it wasn't for his dad, he wouldn't be here today. I asked what he meant, and he said that he tried to kill himself, and that his dad was the one who found him. I personally don't think he could lie about something like that, because both of his brothers killed themselves.

I eventually got around to asking him where we stand, and he said to still be friends. He said he still has feelings for me, but everything's got to him right now. I think he tried to do that because his baby mama kept him away from his daughter, because I know he would never do something like that while she was with him.

This isn't the first episode he's had of depression, either. He had a similar episode last year, but we weren't dating back then. So, I've ruled out that he's said that to get rid of me.

He also said that he still wants to meet up with me, and that we'll talk about it.

I know some people are going to tell me to move on and not look back, but I don't want to make him feel like he has nobody. What can I do?

[Sugarskies]

Can you just be a supportive and caring friend? It sounds like that is what he wants most. Maybe he feels he is incapable of being in a serious romantic relationship right now due to the turmoil he is experiencing inside. A relationship will not fix what's broken in him.

[Trippin2.0]

Just be his friend, be there for him, depression is a lonely place to be.

[Marylin]

Keep seeing him like he says if you can manage with him being depressed to make a relationship work and you still have feelings for him it could work out.You might have to adopt a wait and see stance until your boyfriend sorts out his depression and can commit to you fully.Good luck!

[TwinButterfly]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Just be his friend, be there for him, depression is a lonely place to be.

It sure is. I've been thinking about asking him if he wants to go out for a coffee after he finishes work either this week or sometime next week. But, I don't want him to say yes and then not turn up or speak to me about it.

[TwinButterfly]

Originally Posted by Marylin

Keep seeing him like he says if you can manage with him being depressed to make a relationship work and you still have feelings for him it could work out.You might have to adopt a wait and see stance until your boyfriend sorts out his depression and can commit to you fully.Good luck!

Thank you! Yes, I'm sure we can make it work, only if he's willing to put in the effort too. I'm not therapist but I will be there for him and listen to him, I'll bend over backwards for him if needed, but like I said in a reply post to someone else, I don't want him to agree to meeting up again and then not turn up. I underdtand depression can make you feel like you don't want to see anyone, but since he's feeling down, I'd rather he feel like he's not ashamed to admit when he has those days that he doesn't want to fo throuh with plans.

Sometimes when we fear something we sabotage it ourselves to be in control of it happening. It is quite possible he was sick with grief in advance of what he felt was going to be a coming failure in the relationship owing to his depression. Thus he may have chosen to end it before the worse happened. This is not unusual for people with anxiety and depression. I have sabotaged more than one relationship and job before they had a chance to fail. It's a nature of the beast.

[TwinButterfly]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Sometimes when we fear something we sabotage it ourselves to be in control of it happening. It is quite possible he was sick with grief in advance of what he felt was going to be a coming failure in the relationship owing to his depression. Thus he may have chosen to end it before the worse happened. This is not unusual for people with anxiety and depression. I have sabotaged more than one relationship and job before they had a chance to fail. It's a nature of the beast.

If it's true that he feels like this, is there any way to work around it together?

[MickeyCheeky]

He definitely needs support - hope you'll decide to stay friends with him. Perhaps when he gets better you'll be together again. Does he see a therapist?