[Macd123]

I need more people to talk to. I tried match.com and meetup but really haven't made a lot of connections. I'm approaching senior citizenship and I becoming less motivated about this relationship stuff. I don't have anybody I can really discuss problems with and this is a problem. I thought about getting another therapist so I'll have more people to talk to. I hate that I don't have many options at this point but that's the way it is. Thoughts? PS I'm not religious so church isn't an option.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hmmm. I don't know that I view seeing a therapist as someone to talk to because you're possibly bored and can't strike friendships on match.com necessarily the right way to go about it.

However.

If you're willing to see a therapist to help you put together some strategies in your life as to how to engage with people - go for it!

[Molinit]

Because of your tendency to romanticize any interaction with females younger than yourself, please use a male therapist if you do go that route.

You can also try meetup.com and find an activity you like to meet people and usually the senior community groups are for 55 and up.

Try volunteering for an organization.

[A Red Panda]

Why not try pursuing male friends. I've never heard you mention a single male friend. You'll be able to find a lot more in common with men who are in the same position you are than you do with women.

Originally Posted by Macd123

I need more people to talk to. I tried match.com and meetup but really haven't made a lot of connections. I'm approaching senior citizenship and I becoming less motivated about this relationship stuff. I don't have anybody I can really discuss problems with and this is a problem. I thought about getting another therapist so I'll have more people to talk to. I hate that I don't have many options at this point but that's the way it is. Thoughts? PS I'm not religious so church isn't an option.

Some therapists see it unethical to treat a patient who is already in therapy with someone else. not all though, so do what you feel is best. Maybe try going to an adult education class. You will learn something new and be around others. With meetup, don't focus so much on making friends, just enjoy being around others. I find that takes the pressure off, and i have a better time. If you're talking about meeting a potential gf, a lot of people are in the same boat(being single, Including me) so I don't have advice, but maybe you can take solace in knowing you're not alone.

[MickeyCheeky]

I don't think seeking a therapist for that is the right thing..

[Erebos]

Paying someone to spend time with you?
That isn't really what a therapist is for, also if this is just a way to spend time in the company of a younger female, it's also a no_no.

Perhaps working on friendships rather than partnerships, is there nothing else you would rather spend your money on. Something you wanted to try, for me it would be photography or antique weapon restoration.

Meeting people with similar interests is a much healthier way to develop friendships, than scouring the personals.
Wishing you all the best, take care and good luck.

How about volunteering with community groups/charities? This can be a really rewarding way to spend your time, and not only can you meet a variety of people but you can help others at the same time. It's a win-win.

Just about all my close friends I met through volunteering - we are kindred spirits.

Good luck!

[Macd123]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Why not try pursuing male friends. I've never heard you mention a single male friend. You'll be able to find a lot more in common with men who are in the same position you are than you do with women.

I have a good male friend - he's my neighbor. Thanks

[Macd123]

I running two meetup groups - nothing has really clicked yet. As for match.com - been a scam so far.......���������� thanks.

[Macd123]

Originally Posted by Molinit

Because of your tendency to romanticize any interaction with females younger than yourself, please use a male therapist if you do go that route.

You can also try meetup.com and find an activity you like to meet people and usually the senior community groups are for 55 and up.

Try volunteering for an organization.

I have a female therapist and she's not that young. Thanks 🙏

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Why not try pursuing male friends. I've never heard you mention a single male friend. You'll be able to find a lot more in common with men who are in the same position you are than you do with women.

I suggested the same on the other thread. I think since attempts to have female friends end in disasters, maybe men friends is a good idea

[A Red Panda]

Originally Posted by Macd123

I have a good male friend - he's my neighbor. Thanks

Excellent! Spend more time with him. Join him in social situations.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by Macd123

I running two meetup groups - nothing has really clicked yet. As for match.com - been a scam so far.......���������� thanks.

meetup groups are for people getting together with shared interests. What is it you're looking to "click" ? Enjoy the meetings, enjoy the subject matter, whatever it is and just relax. If you're looking for a great friendship or relationship with someone to "click" you gotta realize the first thing is just going about your business and enjoying yourself. Nothing happens instantly and definitely friendships don't. Keep going to them, I say... as it takes a few times consistently being somewhere with people that the familiarity with others will come and eventually friendship. If you go to meetups sporadically and one shot it expecting something to happen, you're going to keep being disappointed.

I don't think Match.com is a scam, because all they can do is facilitate people meeting others to date. Everything else is on the people involved. No dating service can make you or others perfect matches, can't make your profiles and lives something they are not so as to be appealing etc. It merely is a tool to give you the opportunity to find others to date and meet. It can't be doing anything more.