[Nena3170]

My younger sister admitted to me that she was in love with my husband but now that love has turned to hate. Mind you she tells me that my husband also is in love with her. My husband swore to me that it wasn't true. I don't know what to believe.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by Nena3170

My younger sister admitted to me that she was in love with my husband but now that love has turned to hate. Mind you she tells me that my husband also is in love with her. My husband swore to me that it wasn't true. I don't know what to believe.

I don't know what to say. I'm sorry you're in this situation. Which one are you leaning toward believing? Unless your sister has something specific that points to him 'loving' her or you've seen or sensed something between them it might just be wishful thinking on your sister's part. I can understand the feeling of betrayal.

How was your relationship with your spouse before she dropped this news? Did you have any sign his thoughts were wandering?

[Crazy Hitch]

On what basis does she claim this is true?

Unless she can show you some hard evidence (texts/emails ... whatever) then probably best not to think about it. Unless your husband confesses.

[MickeyCheeky]

If she can't prove, then I wouldn't believe her.. idk, did your husband behaved in strange ways recently?

[Nena3170]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I don't know what to say. I'm sorry you're in this situation. Which one are you leaning toward believing? Unless your sister has something specific that points to him 'loving' her or you've seen or sensed something between them it might just be wishful thinking on your sister's part. I can understand the feeling of betrayal.

Honestly since that day my head is been going in different directions. Yes part of me believes my husband only because he at least in front of me treated her like a sister. And she besides being a pathological liar has a track record. So yes it could be wishful thinking in her part but she ruined a relationship between her and I.

[Nena3170]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

How was your relationship with your spouse before she dropped this news? Did you have any sign his thoughts were wandering?

Our relationship has not changed . We are still the same . Honestly he treats me like I am the only woman in this world. He's sweet,romantic,loving, nothing has changed which is why this came out of nowhere.

[Nena3170]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

On what basis does she claim this is true?

Unless she can show you some hard evidence (texts/emails ... whatever) then probably best not to think about it. Unless your husband confesses.

No she said it was all word of mouth.
He swore it wasn't true.

[Nena3170]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

If she can't prove, then I wouldn't believe her.. idk, did your husband behaved in strange ways recently?

It was all word of mouth. No he's never acted any different.

[Nena3170]

I just don't understand why would my sister tell me she loves me and was there when I was diagnosed with leukemia and acted like she cared . Why would she betray me like this? Does she really hate me that much? I truly am trying to understand all this but it's hard.

[Erebos]

Jealousy can be a powerful motivator.
Pathological liars don't need a reason, often they can't help themselves.
Could he have rejected her?
I don't think she hates you, I suspect she is terribly envious of your relationship. Maybe she wants what u have?
Maybe she wants it to be just you and her?
Obviously I don't know the answers. But you know her and you know your Husband.

What does your gut tell you?

Have you asked your Husband outright?
Trust your instincts.
All the best,I hope all works out for the the best

[avlady]

i feel sorry for you. my sister and i get along after years of hatred but i can see in pictures she is jealous that i love her husband but i have no intention of doing anything and they live far away too.i have my own family to take care of and wouldn't even want to ruin anything in my family. good luck

[Trippin2.0]

Maybe she had a huge crush on your husband that she mistook for love.

People can't help how they feel, only how they act.

All I am saying is, what really is the harm in a one sided crush, that was never acted upon?

[Rose76]

Believe your husband. Sounds like you have a good marriage. Your sister is disturbed. She probably will never have what you have. And she knows that and resents that.

Your sister may genuinely care for you. Your success in life makes her feel more of a failure. Notice she was able to feel caring for you when things were not going well for you, with you having a serious illness. She doesn't hate you. She wishes she was you.

[Nena3170]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Maybe she had a huge crush on your husband that she mistook for love.

People can't help how they feel, only how they act.

All I am saying is, what really is the harm in a one sided crush, that was never acted upon?

Your possibly right maybe it was a one sided crush. Betrayal is betrayal no matter which way you look at it. .

[Nena3170]

Originally Posted by Erebos

Jealousy can be a powerful motivator.
Pathological liars don't need a reason, often they can't help themselves.
Could he have rejected her?
I don't think she hates you, I suspect she is terribly envious of your relationship. Maybe she wants what u have?
Maybe she wants it to be just you and her?
Obviously I don't know the answers. But you know her and you know your Husband.

What does your gut tell you?

Have you asked your Husband outright?
Trust your instincts.
All the best,I hope all works out for the the best

Your absolutely correct. Yes I asked my husband straight out and he swore to me that the only thing he felt towards her was like a sister. My gut is believing him. Its sad that in the process I lost a sister. Jealously that's sad I don't have anything for anyone to be jealous of. I live my life with my family and don't get into anyone business. I have never felt jealous or envy with my siblings. I have always wanted the best for them. So why betray me in this matter. I hope it was worth it for her. As far as I am she lost a sister. Thank you

[Quarter life]

It's a quirk of life & being human that we develop attractions to others who are not available. But common sense rules and we simply push those feelings away and get on with life. No matter what the truth is...your sister I feel set out to hurt you with her statement. Sorry...But there is no love lost there.

Why would your sister lie to you? Does she have a history of lying to you? This sounds like a big disclosure to you of her feelings. I would not discount her words totally. I'd keep an eye on both until the truth comes out.

[Misssy2]

Nena..My sister slept with my husband years ago..she tried to tell me many times..and I didn't believe her because she had serious mental issues AND her and I were super close...

Then my mother hooked her up with an answering service and told her how to tape "him" when he called so I could hear it...after she moved out of our house!

Then I went to my mothers one day and my mother asked me if I was going to believe her or if I wanted to hear a taped discussion about him bringing her over a 6 pack of beer for a BJ.

I said..No, I'm all set...I went home and talked to my husband and he FINALLY admitted it...

It was just a SEX thing....It was me being very busy with work and them living in the same house...It destroyed my whole family dynamic...for years..ultimately, it happened again like 5 years later and I had left him.

Your sister can love you and this still happen. Why would she have a reason to lie about this? Maybe she does have a reason..I'm just trying to help figure it out.

And if it is true it is not only her that bertrayed you. This just made me so sick because my thought process was...so many women in the world...and you go with my sister?

I blamed him more than my sister...because we had so much together...my family was mad at me for keeping HIM around for 5 more years..while not talking to her at all...it really wasn't fair of me...they BOTH were responsible.

What does your gut tell you- you say it says you believe him..but is that your heart? If you get butterflies when you think of this...I wouldn't ignore them.