[LiteraryLark]

Just got off the phone apologizing over and over to Firestone because my mom had sent them a scathing nasty email to them about things she knew nothing about regarding my service. I am beyond upset she would do something like that. Help.

So I'm now going to redirect my "Responsible" thread to the now "How to Handle My Parents for Two More Years."

I'm just so done.

I think the first thing I'll do is to stop housekeeping for them. Yeah, it's a lack of $160/200 a month, but another reason is with my new job I want my days off to not have to work.

I also blocked my mom on facebook....doesn't do much...except let her know I'm pissed off.

I don't know how to distance myself from them while still live with them.

[Bill3]

I don't know how to distance myself from them while still live with them.

I guess I am wondering why you felt the need to apologize for her over and over. After all, she sent the email, not you.

When my MIs are bad, I start feeling like I need to fix things including stuff that isn't my fault (at work and home). When you're constantly cleaning up after others--it leaves no time for you to take care of yourself and be successful.

Sometimes people get sort of aggravated regardless of what we do. If you hadn't blocked her from fb, is it likely that she'll find other things that you do are upsetting? If so, you might as well do what you want to do short of outward disrespect and doing something that will get you kicked out before you are ready. I know you are working toward moving out so I don't think you are using your parents since you work and are always trying to improve....

Maybe your parents are a bit possessive of you?

I don't have children and I never want any but if there is one thing I can speak of from experience is that I've done stuff like this in the past for people that I am possessive of myself such as close friends by lashing out and threatening people who I think hurt them in any way without knowing the whole story.

I guess all I can say is if this bothers you that much (I don't understand how it does considering that I would kill for somebody to care about me that much to do stuff like this) to get away from her.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by Bill3

I guess I am wondering why you felt the need to apologize for her over and over. After all, she sent the email, not you.

Because I empathized with the person she lashed out at. I've received some nasty threats and horrible untrue accusations from customers and it really hurt me and humiliated me when my boss had to ask me if that was at all true. I couldn't possibly treat someone with that level of disrespect and I couldn't believe my mom would do that to someone, anyone, even though she's been their client for the past 15 years and never had an issue. And I had absolutely no issue with my service at all. Yes, it was a rip off, but nothing so extreme as to write a horrible scathing review that hurt their reputation by giving them not only all zeroes (which I would never ever do) but included some nasty description about the person who helped me. It sickens me that people do that, so yes, it was the final straw with my mom and I am intending on moving out.

[seesaw]

I'm glad you can afford to give up income. It must be nice.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by seesaw

I'm glad you can afford to give up income. It must be nice.

Like you said, "if you can't offer support"...

[LiteraryLark]

I've decided to finance a mobile home in a beautiful area. I found a mobile home at $23000 with a down payment and then $700 monthly payments. It's a wonderful feeling to think I can own my own home in just a few years. I am planning on moving out in January. Still haven't told my parents, but I'll try to wait for a good time to avoid burning bridges. I'm not as angry as I was before and neither is my mom.

[divine1966]

I am unsure how you will be able to be on your own owing a house and not having full time job. It's not easy to be on your own with good income but without one? Besides mortgage you'll need to pay car expenses and food and clothes etc

Are you planning to work full time?

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I am unsure how you will be able to be on your own owing a house and not having full time job. It's not easy to be on your own with good income but without one? Besides mortgage you'll need to pay car expenses and food and clothes etc

Are you planning to work full time?

I am working full time and by the time I move I'll have 9 months worth of experience and savings under my belt.

[cakeladie]

Don't forget Electric and Gas , water and garbage bills and insurance for your mobile home. If you don't own your own space you will have to rent a space at a mobile home park and that's another extra cost also in your budget don't forget to add in stuff for your fur babies i.e.: food, vet bills etc.

It's not easy

[LiteraryLark]

In my other posts everyone was telling me that it's time for me to move out, sink or swim, how I'm old enough and basically laughed at me for wanting to stay...now people are saying I should reconsider...

[MiddayNap]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

In my other posts everyone was telling me that it's time for me to move out, sink or swim, how I'm old enough and basically laughed at me for wanting to stay...now people are saying I should reconsider...

Perhaps the take-away should be that moving out would be beneficial to you, however, living alone should not be thought of as easy? Don't let that discourage you-it is wonderful, in my opinion, that you strive to live as an independent adult. At the very worst you may have to find a housemate or two.
Save up, create a budget, eat your vegetables, drink your tea and all manner of such advice.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by MiddayNap

Perhaps the take-away should be that moving out would be beneficial to you, however, living alone should not be thought of as easy? Don't let that discourage you-it is wonderful, in my opinion, that you strive to live as an independent adult. At the very worst you may have to find a housemate or two.
Save up, create a budget, eat your vegetables, drink your tea and all manner of such advice.

Thank you, I understand. I know it will be tough, but it's truly time for me to live on my own. On craigslist, the counties north of me are half the rent of what it costs just to have roommates in my county. They have houses and even small cottages and cabins that are easy to afford, not just rooms or studios, and if I were to finance a mobile home, I can own my property by the time I am 30 which is so cool to think about.

[helicase]

Good luck in making the transition! That's smart that you're building up a financial cushion - that will help. Hopefully, not being physically around your mom all the time will improve the relationship, too, because there is less chance for conflicts to arise.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

In my other posts everyone was telling me that it's time for me to move out, sink or swim, how I'm old enough and basically laughed at me for wanting to stay...now people are saying I should reconsider...

I personally was telling you about taking more responsibility by keeping full time job and preferably with life long prospects/career so you can afford to move out. I don't know about others but i wouldn't ever advice someone to move out if they dont even have stable decent income first for at least a year. Moving out is next step after becoming financially independent.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

I am working full time and by the time I move I'll have 9 months worth of experience and savings under my belt.

That's good. Hopefully you can keep it up fir at least a year.