[mneeley21]

Ever since 8th grade I have had trouble getting a guy to like me the way that I like them. I have always been rejected and I just don't understand why. I've been cheated on, talked about behind my back and it's getting old. For me I feel like guys see things differently then girls because I will get told that Im pretty all the time and guys just don't I guess. I don't know. I just think that it's crazy. Is it just me or does any one else feel the same way??

[Travelinglady]

Hi,mneeley21, and welcome to Psych Central! I can't say that I've had that particular problem, but I would think some people here have.

[wolfgaze]

You said since the 8th grade... How many years has it been that you've been having the types of experiences you describe?

[Crazy Hitch]

Nobody does anything that warrants them being cheated on.

I'm sorry you've met such scum.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. For some reason when I was in school the guys my age were totally not interested but guys 5-10 years older were. Sounds ok on the surface but my parents weren't thrilled and somebody 5-10 years older doesn't want to go to a football game, dance or prom or hang with your friends. Very disheartening. Is it possible that you're interested in guys that aren't 'available' or in the case of you being cheated on....jerks?

Keep trying. I don't know why this is happening to you but you'll find someone worthy of you. Best wishes.

[mneeley21]

Originally Posted by wolfgaze

You said since the 8th grade... How many years has it been that you've been having the types of experiences you describe?

Its been 3 years

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by mneeley21

Its been 3 years

Okay, gotcha... Thanks for answering. While I certainly acknowledge that your current feelings/emotions surrounding this are absolutely valid - it's also important to point out that your sample size (3 years) is very small in the grand scheme of things... There is A LOT of immaturity, adolescent drama, and petty B.S. that transpires during our high school years - people doing things to one another because they didn't know any better at the time and hadn't matured enough yet to act much differently. Then what happens is in our later adult years we're able to look back on our high school days with clarity and see things for how they really were. But I fully understand that when a person is going through these years - everything that transpires feels super important and can even feel threatening to the individual (like it's the end of the world if something goes wrong). I guess what I'm trying to convey here is please try not to place too much emphasis on this relatively short period of your life experience! What transpires in public school is not a reliable indication of what you will experience once you finish high school and move on to new life experiences with new people coming into your life... Try to look upon what you're going through as just a temporary 'phase' and you will pass through it and onto something else and something new...