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May 28, 2017, 02:32 PM
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I'm divorcing (still 2+ years on) my ex due to his drug use.
Recent events have made me really think about the best interest of our child and at the moment having him in her life doesn't seem beneficial for her whatsoever. He sees her for about 6 hours for 1 day at the weekend (never overnight) and for a few hours midweek for dinner. Never calls her He has no interest in her education. Doesn't come to important meetings and events. Never asks me about how she's doing at school etc. Didn't attend her birthday party (was getting a tattoo) Has recently told me he will be homeless and thinks he's entitled to move back in with me - can you imagine how that will affect our daughter?! Cant afford his child maintenance Today said he doesn't want to see her over any half term school holidays at all. All of the above just screams of someone who doesn't give a crap about their child!!!! I'm so utterly heartbroken for her. I will send all of this to my solicitor. But what can I do about this? Can I say to my solicitor that he doesn't have her best interests at all. Can I say I don't want him to see her anymore? I'm sooooo stressed out and upset by it all |
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May 28, 2017, 02:47 PM
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Yes...go to your attorney with everything you've just said in this post and get his advice on how to proceed and protect you and your daughter. Best wishes.
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May 28, 2017, 02:53 PM
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Thank you can I actually say I don't want him to see her? Can this actually be upheld? |
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May 28, 2017, 07:03 PM
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It can only be upheld if you can prove that he: abuses her, is intoxicated around her, neglects her such as doesnt feed her and his house is not suitable for children like he had rats etc, if he endangers her etc
If he simply isn't interested in her education and isn't attending meetings it's not good enough to deny him access to her. There are plenty of custodialparents who are these ways and no one takes their kids away. I teach high school and about 2/3 of parents don't attend anything and can't care less how their kids do (tough neighborhood). It's not uncommon You can certainly talk to your attorney. See what they suggest |
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May 29, 2017, 05:45 PM
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Sometimes parents like you describe, slowly matriculate out or sometimes through patience on your part, find the point that they can give.
It's not easy when the non custodial parent struggles with addiction. It's even tougher being the sober parent in a rather sobering scenario. It's hard to move past the notion of what is loving a child. It's in their own capacity, albeit not at a desireable level to your own standards. I hope that your solicitor has advise. |
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May 29, 2017, 08:32 PM
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I'm so sorry you are going through all this hell.
Him moving back in with you ? Ummm hell to the No !
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May 30, 2017, 05:55 AM
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