[t0t0r0555]

(Actually I'm not sure I'm posting this in the right section or not.... '-' I think I'm mistaken.. )

I am an introvert with anxiety. I don't hate to go outside. In fact, I do feel bored staying at home sometimes and want to watch movies or having a dinner with my family. Actually, the reason why I love to stay at home is because I have 0 confident about my appearance and I'm afraid when I go outside, somebody I know (high school friend especially) will see me looking ugly like this. It's very embarrassing. Plus, I get motion sickness all the time whenever travelling by car so it will drain 80% of my energy (took a lot of time to recover).

But my family ALWAYS...ALWAYS forcing me to go out when I'm not ready to go out. I already told them, please let me know their plan 1 day earlier before the date but they just don't listen to me! Never! Plus, they never include me in making any plan although we do have whatsapp group. They always interrupt me when I'm enjoying doing my own thing for example, sleeping. They just walk into my room, wake me up and say "Get ready. We're going shopping, NOW." I really really can't stand it when they 'surprise' me with their plan like that. I DO WANT to go out, I DO WANT to spend time with them but I need time. Time for preparing myself (preparation=panicking around and worrying about things) but if I say this to them, they will say mean things to me enough to make me cry because I hate myself so much. "I'm coming over here just want to bring my siblings having some fun but you say you're going to stay home? Like a trash? Fine!! If you want to be a trash, then go ahead." How am I suppose to make them understand? Have any of you guys who is introvert feeling like what I'm feeling (need time to prepare or else you won't go out)? Am I being selfish?

[Trippin2.0]

Why would you want time to panic and worry?

Doesn't sound pleasant at all, I'm sorry I just don't get your logic.

If I were in your shoes I would be grateful for not having time to go through that.

[t0t0r0555]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Why would you want time to panic and worry?

Doesn't sound pleasant at all, I'm sorry I just don't get your logic.

If I were in your shoes I would be grateful for not having time to go through that.

I'm sorry..I'm quite a confusing person. That's why my family never listen to me. I need to think what to wear...it takes a lot of time. I need to iron my shirt, check whether the cloth I want to wear is already wash or not, something like that. So, if they told me sooner, I can prepare myself.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by t0t0r0555

I'm sorry..I'm quite a confusing person. That's why my family never listen to me. I need to think what to wear...it takes a lot of time. I need to iron my shirt, check whether the cloth I want to wear is already wash or not, something like that. So, if they told me sooner, I can prepare myself.

I understand you just fine. I'm sorry you're having this trouble with your family. They are disrespecting your wishes and invalidating your needs as well. I am an introvert with anxiety and I like to be told in advance what the plans are because I too need time to prepare myself. You could try approaching the most receptive family member and explain your needs. You're not selfish and you're not alone. I'm here if you want to talk. Good luck with your family.

[Misssy2]

Its tough when you are underage and have to live in the shelter of your parents and go by their rules...the words that they are using are abusive...."trash"? Its no wonder you have a bit of depression and low self esteem.

Next time they "attack" you like that I would tell them they are attacking me...and being abusive and that it is not helping with my willingness to want to do anything with them.

Are you doing well in school? Are you taking any medications? IMO..it sounds like instead of forcing you to do things you don't want to do they should be encouraging you to seek some therapy and possibly medication that will help your brain chemistry to be more balanced and you may end up being happier and wanting to do things .