[ace333]

even though he broke up with me for the second time, im still trying to fight to have my relationship. Wtf is wrong with me 8 years down the toilet, and i still want him

[Erebos]

Did 10 years and did exactly the same thing, he left got another girl pregnant, even though we had 6 kids between us, and I still chased after him for a year trying to 'fix' things.
All I can tell you is after he had been gone about 6 months I literally woke up one day and realised I didn't love this guy I was chasing.
It was the guy I had met I was in love with, and this person he had turned into was not who I loved or what I wanted.
But it took a while to separate the 2. To realise he was never gonna be the person he used to be.

I wish you all the best.

[Crazy Hitch]

It's hard to just "turn off" feelings for someone that we care deeply about; especially if he dumped you and you didn't see the second one coming.

As much of a jerk as he may be, there probably were some good qualities that attracted you to him in the first place. And it's understandable that this is what you miss.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

It's hard to just "turn off" feelings for someone that we care deeply about; especially if he dumped you and you didn't see the second one coming.

As much of a jerk as he may be, there probably were some good qualities that attracted you to him in the first place. And it's understandable that this is what you miss.

I agree. I'm sorry you're having such a tough time with it.

[Bill3]

It is important to remember that we can both:

1. intensely love and want someone, AND

2. choose to stay away from that person because they are unsafe, abusive, a jerk, etc.

The longer we stay away, the more likely the feelings are to fade.