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Jun 25, 2017, 06:35 PM
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Okay so I've been having trouble in the last couple months since I've had surgery. My best friend has an extremely controlling boyfriend who's emotionally unstable and he tries to drag me down with him. Not only are they friends with my emotionally abusive ex boyfriend but he talks about me behind my back to get my best friend to hang out even if she doesn't want to. She rarely ever hangs out with me anymore and I feel hurt when she doesn't talk to me about the things she does just because you know we're best friends and we don't talk but then he's her priority. I'm stuck in my house and I don't exsist anymore
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Jun 25, 2017, 08:21 PM
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I'm not sure what to say to you. I do know that you must be going through some hard times right now. I wish I had an easy answer for you. But I can do this.
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Jun 26, 2017, 01:29 AM
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I'm sorry you're having a tough time and that your friend has distanced herself from you. Please protect yourself mentally around these people, particularly you're friend's boyfriend. I hope you're ok from the surgery and feel better soon. Best wishes.
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Jun 26, 2017, 01:37 AM
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I went through something very similar many years ago.
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#5
Jun 26, 2017, 10:30 AM
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Thank you all for your love and support I'm thinking I'll just lay low for a while and heal up a bit... |
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#6
Jun 26, 2017, 10:41 AM
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Sounds like your friend is in a highly toxic relationship, which makes being friends impossible, or at least very difficult.
It might be good to let this person know that you will have to stay away from that bad situation. Let them know that you'll be there when they get out of it, and when they are more open and available to being friends. It's difficult. Hang in there.
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Jun 26, 2017, 08:44 PM
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She doesn't talk about him to me much or what she does all I know is when we plan to hang out I never know if it'll be her and I or the three of us thus resulting in me just becoming a burden. I don't want her to not talk to me about what she does and how she feels but I feel like I'm slowly losing her. She makes making plans 10 times harder than they usually are asking my parents for help is hard enough but she constantly changes her plans... I don't have anyone else who isn't working or constantly busy or even wants to talk to me I am alone
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