[nicechick55]

Hey guys so i met this girl a long time ago in a group i joined to make friends. We hit it off fast and became really good friends. Shes the introvert type like me that's why i really clicked with her and she seemed really sweet and caring. She's not pretty and she's also been going through depression for a few years and she cuts herself when shes feeling down. Shes dated guys who have been in prison and who take drugs and don't have jobs etc and she sleeps around. I was always trying to be a good friend to her and supporting her when she felt very down, i would always pick her up when we out some where. Guys seemed more important to her but she started hanging out with me more after a while. I wasn't the perfect friend because i would go on about how ugly she was in front of my ex. Anyway i became an escort which means sleeping with men for money and i told her. I remember telling her not to tell anyone. She said she wouldn't and i trusted her. After a while she told me that her dad had cancer and had an operation and told me not to tell anyone but i told my ex boyfriend about it and told him not to tell anyone which i shouldn't have told him but he does keep secrets. So we started going out clubbing every weekend with her guy friend and we all had great fun. Out of no where her ex boyfriend contacted me and started flirting with me and talking to me sexually..i didn't know what to do at that point and i told my friend that he was and sent me a photo of his penis. She was very upset and told me not to encourage the flirting and i told her i wouldn't but i did for some reason. I just liked the attention and i even hung out with him because i was feeling alone and had problems with my ex boyfriend. Me and her ex boyfriend even invited my friend to hang out with the two of us and she did. When we where all hanging out together she seemed pissed off because her ex boyfriend kept staring at me, she even called him a c-u-n-t when i went to the toilet and said i saw the way u where staring at her. I had no idea that she was that sort of person until her ex boyfriend told me. He said she was very clingy towards him and would hound him like crazy. She is also the jealous type because she told me that she gets jealous of me and my exes relationship, even though she would go out with us all the time. Out of no where her ex boyfriend told me that MY FRIEND told him what i did for work! i was completely shocked and didn't see it coming. She told him about 6 months ago when he told me so that was before i chatted to him and before i told my ex that her dad had cancer. I asked him why she told him and he said he was looking at my profile on facebook in front of her and he said that im pretty and it also says that i'm model on facebook and he said cool shes a model and then my friend said shes actually not a model she works at a brothel. Her ex boyfriend told her a job is a job and she said i shouldn't have said that. He told me that she told him because she was afraid he will chat to me and get with me, which i totally understand because she loves him but her ex boyfriend told me he has had enough of her **** because she controls him when they aren't even dating. Anyway i confronted her about it and sent her a message saying, why did you tell josh what i do for a job? we agreed that you didn't tell anyone, that has pissed me off and no response whats so ever. I then i messaged her again on facebook and asked her so are u going to tell me why you told josh what i do for a job? that wasn't very nice of you i thought you where better then that and no RESPONSE! i was left very upset because she was my only friend at the time :/ and i still care deeply about her and miss her lots, i know it sounds stupid. I ended up sleeping with her ex boyfriend even though i didn't like him but i was so depressed at the time. I waited for her response for at least 3 months and i still got nothing so i unfriended her on facebook and she still hasn't contacted me..it has been almost a year now which is crazy because she valued our friendship a lot. Her guy friend that me and her went out clubbing with contacted me about 4 months after i found out. He messaged me twice and i looked at the message and didn't respond so he unfriended me on facebook. I regret that i didn't respond to him because i could have tried to fix my friendship with her. I wake up feeling so confused everyday and i even cry for her. I have major depression and had lots of problems during high school and many people left me and when someone leaves me now it hurts lots and i feel unloved especially the ones who i click with because i find it hard to relate to people and like people. So what should i do? i want to reconcile our friendship so badly but i don't know how to do it. I miss her so much but i don't know if she will even respond to me anymore? why didn't she respond to me? and do you think she ever will? should i try contacting her guy friend and fixing our relationship? thanks so much.

[Skeezyks]

Hello nicechick: I'm sorry I can't really offer anything with regard to your concerns. Hopefully some other members, here on PC, will be able to offer some perspective. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[Sunflower123]

Have you tried contacting her directly or going over to see her? I think you two need to hash this out. Be prepared though that she may not be receptive. Good luck and best wishes.