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Ever try and talk to someone who speaks a different language ? That's the kind of communication I have with the ex I moved back in with after a couple of years of separation. Here's the short of this ONE issue. I can't seem to get her to understand that having my adult daughter and her husband living in the same house with us is detrimental to our relationship. She took them in about a year and a half ago for two reasons. One was so that she would have " help" . Two , to help them out because she doesn't work and he works but doesn't make enough to make it on his own. Now don't get me wrong. I DO have a heart. I DO want to help. But at this point I feel we're just " enabling" them to get nowhere on their own because they have gotten too comfortable. Not contributing a dime towards the bills. " Just broke " is the answer I always hear. If this doesn't end soon my effort to rebuild my marriage will fail. Of course she just can't see it.
She won't understand how she is not really helping them anymore.
And they don't even have kids !!! Oh wait , they do , two dogs and a cat !
Un****ing believable! I'm getting ready to bolt. I was brought up to do what it takes. Not just what you want or would like to do. I just know if we were alone we would have a much better chance at rebuilding our relationship . Maybe me being alone isn't such a bad thing after all. At least I didn't have all this extra stress. Like I said elsewhere, selfish people don't give a damn about how you feel. Your just a means to their end.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time. You're kind of stuck between a rock and a hard space. If your ex won't listen or fix the situation then you either have to accept the situation or leave. I hope you come to a decision that brings you peace.