[Erebos]

Ok so me and my SO have known each other 3 years,but only been together for one.

It's our first anniversary coming up and the problem is I just don't care.

Don't get me wrong, I love him to bits, and this is desperately important to him so I am trying.
But a year in the grand scheme of things a year is nothing.
I guess I am just not feeling it.
Never really been one for all that stuff. Christ I struggle to remember the kids birthdays for crying out loud.

Our actual anniversary day is the 29th but I am going out to see him tomorrow, since it's a Saturday.
And we can spend the day together.

I mean I love spending time together so it's not a problem, I guess I just worry he will make some grand gesture that will make me feel uncomfortable.

Yeah yeah I know, I know, if only everyone had my problems.
I suppose I needed to blurt it out somewhere in case I accidentally said something to him.

[divine1966]

Honestly I am rather romantic in nature (although not over the board) but I've never did or heard of celebrating anniversary of dating. It's a bit much. Not everyone even celebrates wedding anniversary. But certainly not anniversary of starting dating someone.

[Erebos]

I suppose that's how it looks isn't it? I never thought about it.
We are very passed dating, it's more of a lifestyle choice, I don't want to move out to where he lives, he is happy where he is.
It's hard to explain, we consider the other our partner. We have a lot more involvement in each others lives than it may appear, or sound from my description.
But I am nearly 40 he is 30, we are both done with dating, at least in the traditional sense of the word.
But I can see how it appears.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Erebos

I suppose that's how it looks isn't it? I never thought about it.
We are very passed dating, it's more of a lifestyle choice, I don't want to move out to where he lives, he is happy where he is.
It's hard to explain, we consider the other our partner. We have a lot more involvement in each others lives than it may appear, or sound from my description.
But I am nearly 40 he is 30, we are both done with dating, at least in the traditional sense of the word.
But I can see how it appears.

I am not trying to downplay your relationship. Instead of beginning of dating you can call it beginning a relationship. I still don't know anyone who celebrates that but it doesn't mean you can't. People celebrate all kind of things. If your partner wants to celebrate just follow along. Unless of course he planned something extravagant. I personally hate surprises. My husband knows it. So we plan things together

[Sunflower123]

It's very loving of you to go along with something he feels is important that you aren't feeling as much.

[Bill3]

I guess I just worry he will make some grand gesture that will make me feel uncomfortable.

It might be helpful to try to plan in advance how you will respond if he does make a grand gesture.

[Crazy Hitch]

I'm not big into anniversaries with my bf either. He'll count down month by month and frankly I wouldn't have a clue. I just guess "around a year and a half" whereas he'll always know a year, and the exact amount of months off the top of his head.

[Erebos]

Divine I think it's probably as you describe. It is a little odd, but he feels the day we actually got together is massive for him so he wants to mark it.

He knows I detest surprises so it's unlikely but not impossible that he would go over the top.
However he has also tried to insist that everyone loves good surprises. I have assured him NO surprise is a good surprise as far as I am concerned.

I guess it doesn't really matter, it's just a day, and if it's important to him it's no skin off my nose. To let him have it.

(UPDATE)
He is sick as a dog...lol, poor bstrd!
Looks like I will be spending the day serving soup and fruit juice.

[Erebos]

Originally Posted by Bill3

It might be helpful to try to plan in advance how you will respond if he does make a grand gesture.

Your probably right, as my instinct is to get angry. Because I feel my feelings have been ignored.

Where as in this instance it really is just about wanting to do something nice.

Really a cuddle up on the sofa would be more than adequate.

[Bill3]

Aw I'm really sorry to hear that he is so sick, especially when the day means so much to him. I hope he feels better soon!

[Erebos]

Hospital says it vertigo, so heavy duty motion sickness tablets. Will go visit and just chill for the evening.
Thanks for the space to sound off guys.

[divine1966]

My dad has bad vertigo. It used to be horrid when we were young. There are some special neck/back exercises for it. Look up online. It helped him a great deal.

[Erebos]

Originally Posted by divine1966

My dad has bad vertigo. It used to be horrid when we were young. There are some special neck/back exercises for it. Look up online. It helped him a great deal.

Thanks Divine, I will do.