Been cheated on

I found out a month ago that my long term so was cheating and lying. I feel like this has just compounded my other issues and confirmed my belief that I am worthless. I just don't know what forum to talk in. Can someone point me?

I'm sorry this happened to you. Just know, however, that you're NOT worthless just because someone has cheated on you. You're a valuable human being. It's not your fault

Them cheating on you doesn't make YOU worthless. You are not the one cheating and lying. In fact the fact that they cheat makes them not worth your time and energy. Sorry you have such experience. Hugs

You are not worthless because your long time so cheated and lied on you. It's not connected. If it says anything, it's about your so. Can you work through these feelings with a therapist or post here? We're here to support you.

I can't afford a therapist anymore. I'm still paying off my last two appointments which ended up being 50$ each more than I was expecting. It wasn't helping very much either. I've seen other ones as well. they didn't do much either unfortunately

Also I'm having a hard time posting on here. I feel so needy offline and like there are so many People on here with worse problems than me.

I cannot recommend enough the following blog:

Chump Lady - Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

There already being tons of sites devoted to reconciliation, forgiveness and cheating by mutual fault, she bases hers on three premises:

(1) You are never responsible for driving your cheater to cheat.

(2) You are not obligated to forgive or reconcile with your cheater.

(3) Your cheater is not entitled to reconciliation/forgiveness.

One warning: She does swear freely.

Here are my favorite entries:

Dear Chump Lady, I neglected him and this is all my fault

The Fallacy of "Unmet Needs"

It's not an affair! It's an act of "exuberant defiance."

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