[dshantel]

So I started a post earlier this morning about realizing that my husband doesn't comfort me when I'm upset or not feeling well and that he's not deeply emotional with me either. So not too long ago I tried to talk to time about this. I explained to him why I felt that he doesn't connect with me emotionally and that he doesn't comfort me. He didn't really say anything except, "when did this happen?" I told him all the time, anytime I'm not feeling well or if I'm upset. He then just says that I was acting crazy the other night. I was crying because he wasn't giving me what I need from him. He just can't seem to get it or doesn't want to. Idk. So I'm still trying to have a conversation with him, he stopped talking and it's just laying there and then he falls asleep. He's asleep as I'm writing this. What am I supposed to do? I'm trying so hard. I'm not getting anywhere with him. I want to try again when he wakes up but I know he'll just say that I'm going on and on about the same stuff. I'm just at a loss right now. Anyone have similar situations?

[Sunflower123]

No I don't. Hopefully others do. I just wanted to lend my support. Sending big hugs.

Men and women live in different places, emotionally....

I suggest writing down what you need. It sound dumb, but reading it and processing it and reading it again usually will have more of an impact on the Y chromosome bit....

Don't expect much. Men are creatures of action, and if they can't fix it, they won't get why you're telling them and you will just have a frustrated man on your hands who sighs and/or goes to sleep.

Just my own observations. YMMV and others may disagree.

[dshantel]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

Men and women live in different places, emotionally....

I suggest writing down what you need. It sound dumb, but reading it and processing it and reading it again usually will have more of an impact on the Y chromosome bit....

Don't expect much. Men are creatures of action, and if they can't fix it, they won't get why you're telling them and you will just have a frustrated man on your hands who sighs and/or goes to sleep.

Just my own observations. YMMV and others may disagree.

I found this marriage building emotional needs assessment that he has agreed to do with me so that we can both figure out what our most important needs are. I really hope this helps.