First of all, he's going to be taller than me.
Secondly, when we were at the kitchen and then playfully chased him upwards in our own quirky way, he stopped and told me not to forget to turn off the kitchen lights.
I always feel belittled when he says that so I ask him why.
He tells me it's to save electricity. I ask him what about the small living room light. He says it's no big deal. I say it still wastes electricity, and if it bothers him so much, he can turn it off. He says he didn't light it on, so I replied myself again. He told me "ok I'm not arguing with you" and went upstairs.

He tells me that because I had times where I'd forget to turn off the lights in one of our house's rooms.

[Crazy Hitch]

At least he didn't entertain getting into an argument about it and he chose to walk away. It could have gone on a lot longer, but things like this are not worth fighting over.

They're also not worth noting about like he did.
Like when once a past friend nagged me about renewing my car's speakers since the music according to him, plays "horribly". I didn't find a point arguing about it but it really annoyed me inside that I chose to leave. He was also critical about a different topic which triggered my leave. Boiling anger inside due to depression I assume.
Were it for today, I'd tell him "You think my speakers can use an upgrade? Well go ahead, replace them for me!"
He'd probably go like "Oh, I am not the one who needs them, it's you".
"I don't need them".
"Yes you do, *name*".
"Well, if you think I need to replace them then replace them for me. If I don't see a need to replace them I'm not replacing".

[avlady]

That is good you did not argue, i hate having arguments unless they are done sarcastically and in fun. Sometimes when i do that i find a solution in what i'm saying, but i also have to save myself from embarassment.

[Erebos]

I have 4 kids and I hear that kind of bickering often. Usually it's common for the youngest to repeat what they hear elders or parents saying to try and put themselves in an even footing.
I know my youngest sometimes feels talked over or his suggestions passed over because, well he is 10 and they don't always make sense.

I often hear him repeating my instructions to his older brother, just because he wants to be listened to. Even if it's just about putting the computer games away.
I have no doubt it can be irritating, But I don't believe he is purposefully trying to tick you off.
Evidence being he walked away, and wasn't interested in having a fight about it.

Hope your able to feel better about yourself VO, I am certain you have any qualities you can look to and draw on.
All the best,

Originally Posted by Erebos

I have 4 kids and I hear that kind of bickering often. Usually it's common for the youngest to repeat what they hear elders or parents saying to try and put themselves in an even footing.
I know my youngest sometimes feels talked over or his suggestions passed over because, well he is 10 and they don't always make sense.

I often hear him repeating my instructions to his older brother, just because he wants to be listened to. Even if it's just about putting the computer games away.
I have no doubt it can be irritating, But I don't believe he is purposefully trying to tick you off.
Evidence being he walked away, and wasn't interested in having a fight about it.

Hope your able to feel better about yourself VO, I am certain you have any qualities you can look to and draw on.
All the best,

Thanks. To be honest, it may mean I could spend more time with him so he'll feel listened to

[Sunflower123]

I agree with Crazy Hitch. Is there a history of conflict between you two or do you think you might be a little sensitive and defensive around him?

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I agree with Crazy Hitch. Is there a history of conflict between you two or do you think you might be a little sensitive and defensive around him?

Not much conflict to be honest. The only thing is he'd want to do activities I wasn't interested in. Other than that, I am the one giving him company with playful talk, making fun of each other for the fun of it.

As for me, I personally feel like an inferior person, where dominating people win and control. It's a complex and a crisis. It comes from a place where I want to be dominant, stand for myself for a change. I've always felt people get in my way to stand up to my needs. SHM