Is this the end?

I've been married for 10 years and have 2 children. My husband and I have been arguing constantly. I'm not even sure if I love him anymore or if I ever did for that matter. I've been fantasizing about being single again. The thought of being able to start over is very appealing but at the same time very frightening. Who would want to be with someone that has a ready made family? I'm still trying to finish my education. I can't support myself or my children at this time. Thats part of the reason I've stayed with him for as long as I have. I kept waiting for things to get better. I thought I had no choice. Now that I'm going back to school I can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Its very freeing to know that I may be able to have a career of my own some day but it also brings out feelings of resentment. I quit school so he could finish and get his career started. I'm starting to see all of the things I've missed out on and want desperately to recapture some of those opportunities that had been lost. My husband feels threatened by my new found independence and I'm annoyed at his lack of support and understanding. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I don't know how to handle all of these feelings.

Hi rewind,

Welcome. I'm probably not the best person to respond, but I do have a couple thoughts.

Have you and your husband discussed marriage counseling? It would be a shame if there was something that could be done to help your relationship. I think that it's great to have your own life, and for your husband to have his own life. In my opinion, I believe it's not only healthy for each individual but also healthy for the relationship. I think counseling, either couples, or individual (through your school's counseling center?), might be helpful in sorting out feelings and helping with communication between the two of you.

Have you been able to talk with anybody about any of this, to maybe get some feedback?

I really don't know what else to say. Let us know how you're doing.

Take care,

splash