[Cb1972]

Do i stay in my relationship for the sake of the kids and fear of hurting people or do i do what will make me happy?

[healingme4me]

I would say that depends. What specifically is happening with your relationship that causes a lack of happiness? Can it be addressed in counseling? What's going on between the both of you in co-parenting? Is there a lack of a united front?

[WarmFuzzySocks]

I agree with the above questions, and would add: Is the relationship/home in a place that is healthy for your kids? And can you be a strong stable healthy parent in this home?

I've had to ask myself those questions. Am asking them on a regular basis. Many hugs. It's a challenging place to be.

[winter loneliness]

Agree with this. It is too hard to generalize.

[Sunflower123]

I posted in your other thread as well. One of the previous posters has a good idea. Can this be worked out or improved in couples counseling? What about individual therapy for you? My answer depends as this is too general. Sending big hugs.

[Shazerac]

It's difficult say without knowing any details of your situation. If you are in an abusive relationship my opinion is that its not a good thing because the kids learn that it's OK to live in an abusive situation or to be an abuser.

THe same goes for who will be hurt. You have to decide if your self care is important and if it out weighs who will be hurt.

Originally Posted by Cb1972

Do i stay in my relationship for the sake of the kids and fear of hurting people or do i do what will make me happy?

I agree with the above questions, but if you're truly unhappy, if it has been ongoing for a long time and you have tried everything to make it work and it won't, then I would say do what makes you happy, foremost. Kids will suffer from the split, but if the partnership is unhealthy overall, they will be better off.