Truth or lies, how do you know?

Are there any good ways to tell if a partner is truthful, or not? He has lied to me once, made-up and appologized, etc. That was about 2 years ago. I agreed to give our relationship another try, conditional upon his behavior. Now, I think he's telling me little white lies, they are not (I think) regarding another woman, but they are triggered when he is stressing over a demanding job. I don't know what to do. This relationship held promise, but are "little white lies" just a sign of distraction/depression, or a clear signal that I am not important to him?

When we met, he had a great job. Then, the recession came, and he lost it, and he feels embarassed that he is poor, he says. He now got a 6 days a week limited time contract position wich he is eager to excel in .. so eager that I haven't seen him in two months, he forgot my birthday too.

I am long past my bad-boys stage, and was trying to do the right thing for me, this time. Just dunno what the right thing is.

Hi,
In my opinion, if a person who says they love you, is telling "white lies" then they are not being truthful.

As far as I see it there are to me no such things as "white lies" or little lies etc. As far as I see it any lie no matter how big or small is just that a lie. Trust is earned, and if this person is telling lies, then that to me is the answer to the question of how to know if there truthful. NO if you know there are lies being told then the trust is broken.

Good luck, if your partner is telling lies, don't lie to yourself that these are not lies. From my experience it can result in a big twisted mess.

Wishing you the best,

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~KRIS~

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

Thanks, I needed to read that. I''ve always been double-guessing myself, trying to avoid judging others untill I have evidence. I was wondering about the TV-show Frasier, in which characters get into trouble in each and every show for telling "white lies" to protect someone's feelings, but in TV land, we laugh, then all's well...

I am going to take a softer approach then Kris and play the Devil's advocate for a little bit. Could the lies be a reflex survival skill that is resurfacing because of the pressure he is under? It doesn't excuse the lies, it just puts them in a little different context and by trying to understand why he is doing it may make it possible for you to confront him about it in a more gentle and understanding way.

I totally agree that lies are lies and it isn't a good idea to let them slide.
Carrie

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