[Openended]

Ok so for preface this is not concerning her sexual history. I really don't care about that. What really bothers me is how she acted in the past. For lack of better word she was a bit mean I guess. She's admitted the things she did was wrong and that she would take advantage of guys who loved her for the fun of it. I never really asked her anything about her past I'd rather not know for this reason. However every so often she'd drop hints I go to the same college as she does and though it's big I've met a few people who have told me what's she's done guys and girls. Eventually just to assuage my fears I told her about what these people said. I didn't believe them at the time however she verified what they said but that she tried to make amends with them and so far as I know this is true. I'm trying to let it go and I know no ones perfect we've all done terrible things but it's messing with me. We've been dating for a year and are both in our senior year. I want to stay with her but this revelation is killing me.I guess I'm just asking for others views.

Welcome to PC!

Hmm.... the question I would ask is have you seen any behaviors while with her now that bother you? Like how she treats others now?

I don't like what she's done to guys in the past either, and that would bother me too, but many people do all sorts of bad things when they're younger, then grow out of it and change.

I guess I would be more concerned with how she treats people now.

Also, if she's tried to make amends with people for bad behavior in the past, that shows she has a conscience, and this is positive action. She must feel badly about it, to an extent.

Not sure if this helps any, others may also have some good input for you.

Best wishes, eve.

[~Christina]

Usually the first 6 months of a relationship is the "honeymoon " stage. After that is when people show who they really are, she's done all she can do to make amends, if you're both happy then try to let her past go

[Sunflower123]

Hello. Welcome to PC. golden eve and Christina make excellent points. I agree. If you're not seeing red flags now, I'd let it go.