Someone I thought was my best friend hasn't answered my messages since spring. I asked how she was a couple of times but as I didn't receive an answer, I told her I'd give her time and space and not bother her anymore. All summer, I kep wondering what had happened, whether I'd said or done something to upset or hurt her - I got so worried something bad had happened to her that I checked her Facebook profile via my brother's account. She'd been joking around there like nothing was wrong.

A couple of weeks ago, I couldn't take the uncertainty anymore and decided to contact her one more time. Sent her an email asking directly why she'd suddenly cut off all contact. Haven't received a reply. I'm part furious she can't just be straight with me, part devastated over losing her - and part of me wants to let go and move on. Seriously, this isn't worth my time and energy - what the hell more could I do since she's completely ignoring me!!

But how do I let go when I'm still holding onto hope she'll answer.. Keep checking my email all the time and getting disappointed when there's nothing I have to stop this.

I am sorry that happened, and it's hurtful. Though I would want to know why as well. Perhaps your friend is having trouble expressing why.... is there any disagreement you had?

[akkie]

I'm sorry :-(

[Bill3]

I'm sorry that she did this to you.



If you block her then she won't be able to contact you. Perhaps that would help you move on.

Also, you could treat this like a death to you and grieve the loss as you would other losses. You could write about her, talk about her as you might at a wake, perhaps create a small ceremony for yourself, all focused your connection with her and on the fact that now she is gone.

I'm really sorry for your loss.

[Carmina]

is she depressed herself? I know from your perspective this is awful but as someone who, when depressed, tends to push people away and not always respond for weeks or more, even close family sometimes, I can understand if that is what is happening. You just feel in a deep deep pit and that people are better off without you as you will drag them down too.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry for your loss. It sounds like she has ended the friendship and you have tried many times to reconnect. I think it's time to grieve the loss and move on. I like Bill's suggestion of blocking her so you can get closure. You could also wait a few months and try again. I hope you come to a place of peace and healing.

[Fuzzybear]

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by ShareYourStory

Someone I thought was my best friend hasn't answered my messages since spring. I asked how she was a couple of times but as I didn't receive an answer, I told her I'd give her time and space and not bother her anymore. All summer, I kep wondering what had happened, whether I'd said or done something to upset or hurt her - I got so worried something bad had happened to her that I checked her Facebook profile via my brother's account. She'd been joking around there like nothing was wrong.

A couple of weeks ago, I couldn't take the uncertainty anymore and decided to contact her one more time. Sent her an email asking directly why she'd suddenly cut off all contact. Haven't received a reply. I'm part furious she can't just be straight with me, part devastated over losing her - and part of me wants to let go and move on. Seriously, this isn't worth my time and energy - what the hell more could I do since she's completely ignoring me!!

But how do I let go when I'm still holding onto hope she'll answer.. Keep checking my email all the time and getting disappointed when there's nothing I have to stop this.

I'm sorry that has happened. It has happened to me so I know how it feels. I believe your friend ended the friendship and was honestly too much of a coward to tell you. I once had a friend end things this way many many years ago and to this day, I still think of her as a coward. Not the fact that she ended the friendship, but the fact that she couldn't just tell me what was wrong or tell me she wanted no further contact with me. I hope your friend realizes what she has done and reconciles or at least gives you an explaination. You deserve better.

Thank you all for your support

I took one final look at her Facebook profile - she'd been updating away all summer like nothing was wrong. Was like a slap in the face.. Now I think I'm going to do as you said, grieve the fact that she doesn't want anything to do with me, at least for now, and then try and move on..

I think I'm going to at least write 'her' a letter I'll never send to get all my emotions and thoughts out..

I'm sorry for your pain. (((Hugs))) I know it must hurt a lot right now, but it will get easier with time and time will heal your wounds. Good idea to write a letter. Then burn it! Perhaps try to focus on happier things moving forward, and those friends who do care about you. (((more hugs)))

[MickeyCheeky]

Writing a letter seems like a good idea. After that, I think it's the best option to just move on. I'm sorry you're hurting

[Copingmeadow]

Ghosting (suddenly disappearing without a word and ignoring contact) is a terrible thing, and something that hits very close to home for me. I am sorry you are going through this. Nobody deserves to be ignored like this.

Originally Posted by ShareYourStory

Someone I thought was my best friend hasn't answered my messages since spring. I asked how she was a couple of times but as I didn't receive an answer, I told her I'd give her time and space and not bother her anymore. All summer, I kep wondering what had happened, whether I'd said or done something to upset or hurt her - I got so worried something bad had happened to her that I checked her Facebook profile via my brother's account. She'd been joking around there like nothing was wrong.

A couple of weeks ago, I couldn't take the uncertainty anymore and decided to contact her one more time. Sent her an email asking directly why she'd suddenly cut off all contact. Haven't received a reply. I'm part furious she can't just be straight with me, part devastated over losing her - and part of me wants to let go and move on. Seriously, this isn't worth my time and energy - what the hell more could I do since she's completely ignoring me!!

But how do I let go when I'm still holding onto hope she'll answer.. Keep checking my email all the time and getting disappointed when there's nothing I have to stop this.

I know that kind of pain, when you want to contact a person and they're not responding.
I learned those kind of people are not worth committing to