[Lbclin]

I'm not entirely sure where to start, or if this was the right forum but I feel like this is where most of my problems stem from. I have for my whole life had an incredibly hard time communicating my feelings to people & it has negativly impacted every relationship I've had in some way. I'm 22, 33 weeks pregnant and since I have become pregnant felt like this has affected me more than ever because my emotions are more all over the place, so to speak, I can't communicate my concerns or fears with my partner. I have been unemployed since a few months into the pregnancy and he had his hours cut a few months ago and it has put us behind on all of our bills and I am worried we will not be able to support our baby like we need to when she gets here. I am just trying to find maybe a different approach or Style or way I can try to talk to him, it is really affecting us right now because we have so many things going on that are stressing us out and we arent able to work together to fix them. I most of the time can't even begin a conversation because I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack almost, so I just don't bother. there will be times when I get up sad about something and he can tell and he asked and I'm just not able to tell him what's wrong . Or I finally work up the courage to say something and start having a conversation and then one of us, usually me, gets upset and I just shut down and the conversation is over and nothing gets resolved. I I was considering going to talk to a therapist, but I had done that back in high school for a little while and felt like it got me nowhere because of the same issue, that I couldn't talk to her and explain myself well enough for her to be able to help. I know I'm not the only one who's had this problem and looking for someone who can help with an alternate method or something to try. I can't keep all of these things to myself but I don't know how to get them out. Thanks for any help

[CANDC]

Hi Lbclin. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you and your partner are having a tough time. Having a baby also redefines a relationship and changes it. I think a professional like a therapist or psychiatrist can help prepare you for the birth of your baby and the new roles you will have. They even may consider therapy options both during and after having the baby. Your partner may need to have a third person (counselor or therapist) in the room to come to terms with the changes. At the least you could benefit greatly from the experience. Check to see what your insurance covers. Also consider filing for unemployment even if you quit your job you may be able to collect some benefits. There may also be other benefits that your state offers to expectant mothers that could ease your burden. There are many options to consider. Going it alone is a scary course in my estimation. Having advocates to help you could be a big difference in the quality of life.