[foirxvxl]

So a guy just confessed to me and I'm still not sure how to feel about him. I'm kind of insecure and unsure because I don't even understand why he would like someone like me. I'm not pretty, kind or smart enough. I'm your average girl in class who has her own group of friends. I can't really interact well with guys because I feel awkward but I do talk to them sometimes. I don't know how I feel about him, I think I do like him a little but I'm not sure it's going to work out even if I feel the same way. It's been quite a while since my last relationship and I haven't truly liked anyone since then. I want to try this out but I'm afraid it will end up in me hurting his feelings or getting my own feelings hurt. I don't think I like him enough to pursue a relationship with him but when I think about it my heart ached a little bit. When he first tried to get close to me I would feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure if it's because I'm awkward or because I just don't like him. I can't figure out my own feelings and I'm afraid to hurt his feelings. He is such a good friend and I wouldn't want to lose him. I told him that I was sorry and he apologized to me so much as if it is the end. I'm not sure what to do about it.

[BleedTheFreak]

You're afraid. Your insecurity adds to your fear. Once you accept the fact that someone out there finds you pretty, kind, and smart enough to pursue something with you, I think that fear can begin to subside. You are your own worst enemy and the only thing in the way between the single life and being bold enough to venture forth. Allowing yourself to get that close to someone involves facing the fact that someone could get hurt. No relationship is perfect, and anyone who claims to have a perfect relationship is a damn liar and should be ignored.

[RainyDay107]

You sound anxious What do you mean when you say he confessed? If you mean he expressed an interest in getting to know you more, like a date—you may be getting way ahead of yourself. You may not be romanitically compatible but good as friends, or you may make a great couple. It’s too soon to know, way too soon....or perhaps things are established between you as a couple and I misunderstood your post. Best wishes, however it goes. Be yourself and do what you want, not because others want you to.

[ArcheM]

Yeah, I also got confused by the word "confessed"... I'm actually saying this as a guy who used to "confess" which was unhealthy, but I may be reading too much into this.

[foirxvxl]

Originally Posted by glamslam

You sound anxious What do you mean when you say he confessed? If you mean he expressed an interest in getting to know you more, like a date—you may be getting way ahead of yourself. You may not be romanitically compatible but good as friends, or you may make a great couple. It’s too soon to know, way too soon....or perhaps things are established between you as a couple and I misunderstood your post. Best wishes, however it goes. Be yourself and do what you want, not because others want you to.

He confessed as in he told me that he actually liked me. At first he asked me if I feel bothered with all the messages he sent me and I trurhfully said a bit. I felt uncomfortable but I don't hate it. After hearing that he immediately said sorry and assumed that I don't like him at all or that I hate him. So even I don't have the chance to explain it clearly. But I can't say that I truly like him either because I know for a fact that I don't. So honestly I'm not really sure how I feel. I was feeling kind of anxious but now I just feel numb.

[ArcheM]

I shouldn't be giving any relationship advice, but having been in the shoes similar to that guy I kind of feel an urge. So, from my point of view, as a possibly older version of that guy, I'd want you to actually become friends with him, and, paradoxically, also maybe block him on social media. I think it's way too easy to perceive a distorted, idealized image, when you don't have much experience of a possible reality, and actually stay with that. And the sooner that image is shattered, potentially the better for everyone.

However, this is just an idealized projection on my part, and might not actually apply or be impossible. Just food for thought, and maybe someone else will comment on this idea.

[Sunflower123]

It doesn't sound like you are interested in him other than as a good friend. If that's the case, keep the friendship and let him down gently. Good friends are hard to find.