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Oct 05, 2017, 02:06 AM
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It makes me sick to the stomach when I have to deal with people who pretend to be busy and having to deal with their ignorance of my attempts to communicate with them.
I have one person I know who's like this and won't talk to me much. How do I communicate that it hurts? |
 Anonymous50909, MickeyCheeky, Sunflower123
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Oct 05, 2017, 05:58 AM
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If you call them on it, it only makes you embarrass yourself because you are telling them you know their excuse is a lie, and the truth is they don’t want to see you for some other reason.
Do you think the real reason they are ‘busy’ is because of something you do that puts them off?
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Oct 05, 2017, 06:47 AM
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But I know that one person disables blue marks and "last seen" settings on WhatsApp. There's this other person who hardly connects to WhatsApp. I once sent him an "?" when he didn't answer my message, and he replied, but afterwards disabled blue marks. This case didn't really make me feel that bad, because to me it said "It's nothing personal, I just want my privacy and space". But regardless, I called him one day and he answered as usual. I know he's very busy. I recontacted the former person. We didn't have any mutual interests to bond us other than work, but I still remember having good chemistry to him, and perhaps even an attraction. I think I may have a problem talking with my feelings, saying things like "I feel it's important to keep contact with you, I've had a great time with you at work, you were one of my best friends there". It may have something to do with revealing my feelings, as I usually don't do that. But my intuitive answer remains the same - I have no idea. |
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Oct 05, 2017, 07:02 AM
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I am not a monster. The only reason for this that I can come up with is they simply don't want to ! People become very self centered and are only concerned with their own lives. Also I believe distance is a factor. But there is something called a phone , right ? I got so tired of it that I finally learned that if someone does not want to communicate with me then I just move on with MY life. I'm not wasting anymore time on them. Move on my friend. Life is short !
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Oct 05, 2017, 07:14 AM
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Oct 05, 2017, 07:19 AM
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#7
Oct 05, 2017, 07:25 AM
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I recommend avoiding that honesty. Just find others who do want to be with you.
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Oct 05, 2017, 08:21 AM
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You can want honesty but you kind of can't demand it. The other person may not even know why, or are unwilling to tell you. Friends we made at work tend to drift away after a while. It's a normal process because sometimes the job was the only thing you have in common. In my 40 years of working I only have one sort of friend from the work years. We say hi on Facebook occasionally, but that's about it.
Moving on and finding friends that you have something in common with in the here and now and have time for you is probably your best and most healthy option. 
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Oct 05, 2017, 09:03 AM
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Perhaps just be honest? Or you could ignore him yourself and instead focus your attention on better friends..
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Oct 05, 2017, 12:29 PM
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Oct 05, 2017, 04:35 PM
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If they continue to be "busy" after your attempts at communication then I agree you might want to move on to other friends who aren't as busy. I don't think you'll find out why these friends are so "busy" even though you might want to. Best wishes.
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Oct 07, 2017, 05:51 AM
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I actually am very busy and would not like people to assume otherwise. And sometimes I just am not interested in some people. I think it's normal. Unless it's immediate family or significant other, random people really aren't obligated to communicate or hang out. I suggest you try to move on and meet new people
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Oct 07, 2017, 07:21 PM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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