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Old Oct 13, 2017, 05:40 PM
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I'm really having a hard time with a colleague at work.

I really dislike the way he behaves around me and talks to me.

I'm a clumsy person, this is common knowledge to people who know me.
Today at work I dropped a lot of sugar on the floor whilst making a drink. Colleague made a very big deal of it. Saying he can't believe someone is so clumsy, I can't control my limbs and laughed and called me a retard. I kind of tried to laugh it off and joked that I needed the whole office to help me clean up the mess. Someone else actually did come and help but colleague stood in the way, actually right in the middle of where I was trying to clean up and said he shouldn't have to move out of the way of my mess and I need to clean it up.

I snapped and said he was acting like a **** and could have at least moved out the way so I could clean up the mess.

A few hours later I saw him in the office and he walked past me and very loudly asked if I was still sulking.

He's very popular and everyone likes him and always wants to talk to him and be around him. I don't get it..... Are others really drawn to people like this??
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 05:54 AM
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Hello. Welcome to PC. Apparently so. There’s no accounting for taste. I’m sorry you’re having a problem with this obnoxious bore. Ignore him if you can and take the high road. He’s a bully. If it becomes unbearable, the next time he makes a statement look him directly in the face and stop it in its tracks diplomatically (ie stand up to him). Good luck.
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 06:03 AM
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I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like this.. try to ignore him if you can, he doesn't deserve any attention.

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Old Oct 14, 2017, 06:46 AM
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Ugh how unkind - that sounds like bullying to me. Anyone who uses the word 'retard' in this way is someone to avoid as much as possible.

I would bet not everyone likes him as much as it seems, probably just afraid they will be targeted by him. Hold your head up and ignore him as much as you can.
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 07:09 AM
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.......He's very popular and everyone likes him and always wants to talk to him and be around him. I don't get it..... Are others really drawn to people like this??
I don't think this is the case at all. People are afraid of him. He simply has clout and like any bully people are afraid of the repercussions should they offend him or attempt to push back.

He may also be a narcissist. they tend to have a great deal of charisma and influence. They have a way of gathering people around them - usually preying upon their weaknesses to do so. They live for superiority. Everything is about them. By refusing to move, he hi-jacked your misfortune to make it about him.

Do you have a Manager? Do you have an HR department? Do you have an EAP?

Each of these are obligated to do something about this. Start documenting these incidents and present them to your superiors. If your workplace refuses to do something about this then I suggest you go the 'Human Rights' route.
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 10:19 AM
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Wow what a flaming jacka@@. I agree with the others. Ignore him but do document where, when and what was said, if he goes at you again. Calling you a retard is not ok. It may even be an actionable offense.
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 02:03 PM
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I agree. His comment to you was highly inappropriate and obnoxious. He is obnoxious. I also doubt people like him as much as you may think. Definitely ignore him best as you can, but if he says something else that is out of line, tell him so and walk away. This person is a real turd.
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Old Oct 14, 2017, 03:01 PM
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I would go the HR dept or your Boss. His name calling IS wrong and should be addressed.

Im sorry your going through all this.
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