[SorryShaped]

Do you honestly answer? I nearly always do. I'm not afraid of telling people I'm down or hurting or feeling anxious even. It puts a lot of people off, and pushes away others that I thought cared but the few that stay are worth being around, regardless of how messed up they are, because we all are. I'm not afraid to admit it.
Do you honestly answer that question?

Usually I'll say "Good" or "Doing ok", it's not always honest but I don't like to divulge how I'm truly feeling to people I'm not close with. Sometimes it's easier to tell a little white lie.

[SorryShaped]

Easier to lie, yes. I've been told I shouldn't divulge my life to strangers, but odds are they will still be strangers later so I give it a shot. I've got a few friends that know that it's a serious question and we all answer it that way, and always have.

I always say something on the neutral-positive spectrum, to keep the vibes up

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

I always say something on the neutral-positive spectrum, to keep the vibes up

But if I'm not in the upside, I can't possibly give them a chance to help

[Shazerac]

How I answer that question really depends who's asking. Some people use it as a generic greeting. If it's someone who knows me and I feel comfortable sharing with them I tell the truth. Other times I hide.

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

But if I'm not in the upside, I can't possibly give them a chance to help

I didn't get it

[MickeyCheeky]

It depends on the person.. if it's someone who cares and I trust, I will tell the truth.

[~Christina]

I’m fine , I’m always fine.

I have a couple fellow bipolar friends on here I can be like “ omg I am going to lose my shyt”

I left my T when we moved 750 miles away , I miss him I could be 100 % honest with him.

Have yet to find a T here , financially it’s impossible atm and there will not be another “Richard” we worked together weekly for 6 years unless one of us was on vacation.

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

It depends on the person.. if it's someone who cares and I trust, I will tell the truth.

I find people that care by answering honestly

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

I’m fine , I’m always fine.

I have a couple fellow bipolar friends on here I can be like “ omg I am going to lose my shyt”

I left my T when we moved 750 miles away , I miss him I could be 100 % honest with him.

Have yet to find a T here , financially it’s impossible atm and there will not be another “Richard” we worked together weekly for 6 years unless one of us was on vacation.

You've got somebody here that you can answer honestly to, or even start the conversation by answering it when unasked. Anyone can. I will try my best.

[Ray_808]

How you doing?
How are you?

When people ask those I am honest sometimes. The problem is I don’t want them to ask follow up questions. I just want it to be a one and done exchange which is why I’m not always honest.

Ok
Ok I guess
I’m ok
Fine
Good
Good enough
Not so good

Those are about the only answers I ever use and sometimes they are accurate.

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by Ray_808

How you doing?
How are you?

When people ask those I am honest sometimes. The problem is I don’t want them to ask follow up questions. I just want it to be a one and done exchange which is why I’m not always honest.

Ok
Ok I guess
I’m ok
Fine
Good
Good enough
Not so good

Those are about the only answers I ever use and sometimes they are accurate.

I suppose I'm usually wanting follow-up queries. I think we're all here to learn everything we can from one another amongst other things. I also spend a lot of my time in isolation, without positive interaction, or internalizing everything. Maybe that one person has the key to everything for me, and maybe it will happen and maybe it's the simplest thing, like the ultimate answer to life, the universe, and everything. I guess I'm being optimistic even when I'm feeling my worst. Just thought about it that way.
I really appreciate all the input on this. I think I now know why I do this. And yes, I know the ultimate answer is 42.

[Ray_808]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

I suppose I'm usually wanting follow-up queries. I think we're all here to learn everything we can from one another amongst other things. I also spend a lot of my time in isolation, without positive interaction, or internalizing everything. Maybe that one person has the key to everything for me, and maybe it will happen and maybe it's the simplest thing, like the ultimate answer to life, the universe, and everything. I guess I'm being optimistic even when I'm feeling my worst. Just thought about it that way.
I really appreciate all the input on this. I think I now know why I do this. And yes, I know the ultimate answer is 42.

The only people that ask me those questions are relatives and cashiers so I suspect they don't care to know the answer most of the time and are simply acting friendly. Sometimes I don’t feel like talking to people and just want to get through it so I can go back to feeling safe and comfortable alone. I like what you said though about how maybe someone has the key that might make a huge difference. Optimism is good. Hope is good.

[Erebos]

I know ALOT of people with their own shyt going on, last thing they need from me is bring down the tone.
No one can help me with my crap but me,
And what if they are asking cos they are the ones feeling shytty, and then they get loaded with my downer too.
Nah, I know who is ok to be open with and who isn't.

Besides there are always those little weasels who pretend they give a Damn but twist everything to their own needs.
I can sniff those b#ggers out like a Fart in a car.

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by Erebos

I know ALOT of people with their own shyt going on, last thing they need from me is bring down the tone.
No one can help me with my crap but me,
And what if they are asking cos they are the ones feeling shytty, and then they get loaded with my downer too.
Nah, I know who is ok to be open with and who isn't.

Besides there are always those little weasels who pretend they give a Damn but twist everything to their own needs.
I can sniff those b#ggers out like a Fart in a car.

I probably should learn some proper social graces, but I've not yet learned them in over 4 decades. They're illusive.
I disagree, others can be very helpful.
"For their own..." is seeming like narcissists? They suck as people, truly.

Yep.....

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by estellanomore

Yep.....

Please explain it to me. I don't understand that image at all

it says this is symbolic of many things....

its a scribble as in a mess as in arrrrrrggggghhhh

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by estellanomore

it says this is symbolic of many things....

its a scribble as in a mess as in arrrrrrggggghhhh

Ok. Thank you. I've seen it other places before and did not ask

[samj40]

Killer is Dead avatar, right?

But on topic, I try not to be so honest these days. Even people that I'm extremely close to, I just feel like I'm being a burden if I tell them how I'm really going. I've pushed too many good people away so I'm trying to avoid doing that now, I like the people I have in my life atm, I don't want to lose them by burdening them. Y'know? Besides, there's nothing anyone can really help me with, at the end of the day. Whatever my issue is, it's my issue, not theirs.

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by samj40

Killer is Dead avatar, right?

But on topic, I try not to be so honest these days. Even people that I'm extremely close to, I just feel like I'm being a burden if I tell them how I'm really going. I've pushed too many good people away so I'm trying to avoid doing that now, I like the people I have in my life atm, I don't want to lose them by burdening them. Y'know? Besides, there's nothing anyone can really help me with, at the end of the day. Whatever my issue is, it's my issue, not theirs.

Yep, KiD became one of my favorite games, just because it's that weird.
I get really horrible toward myself when I lie. I hate myself just a little bit more each time. With even the smallest "fine" I become more "not fine" every time. I do sometimes use "things could always get worse" in an attempt to be truthful and try to not be so off-putting.
I've always felt myself a burden since I was a small child to everyone and still feel that way a lot of the time, even to those I trust.
I think all beings should lift all others up and help the hurting by hurting together, even though it's not the same hurt and they don't have my particular hurt. It's unfortunate or maybe it isn't, but pain is part of life. We all have our burdens, but that lets us experience pleasure too. I really do need a cat but am not allowed them here. I need to get that housing application turned in ASAP.
No one in my family asks how I'm doing since my hospitalization last year, because I always tell them honestly, thinking they'll want to care or listen. Those that do ask roll their eyes the whole 20 seconds and say "hmm" or "oh?" or even "ok" after I blatantly ask their opinions, indicating they aren't listening and probably just don't care because it's not their lives. If they were drinkers, they'd be fairly typical alcoholics. They're not, but are mostly emotionally unavailable. Let them break something, and they're very quick to ask for my help. I've always tried help when anything was broken because it was my small way to say "I love you and you're important." I could fix any physical item that didn't require intense technical knowledge. Computers, electronics, houses, yards, cars were all way enough. I don't fix everything any more because I don't have all the abilities I once did. I still ask them how they are, but they only reply "ok" or "hi." I have one sister that listens, and will engage in serious conversations, but doesn't seem to want to usually, even when I was trying to ask her for help with calming my thoughts during mania recently. She just sat there, staring at her tablet, and making "hmm" noises. Yesterday her answers were all "just let it go" when I was telling her about something that is currently an ongoing problem that I have to fix and will be there regardless of my letting go

Originally Posted by Shazerac

How I answer that question really depends who's asking. Some people use it as a generic greeting. If it's someone who knows me and I feel comfortable sharing with them I tell the truth. Other times I hide.

I am the same exact way. It all depends on who is asking. Generally, I say I am good just so I don't have to go into details and most don't really want to hear it.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

I wouldn't want to burden them with the unsolvable problem of my misery.

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

I wouldn't want to burden them with the unsolvable problem of my misery.

I believe there's a solution. I have hope for everyone, you included.