[Otherworlder92]

I'm not sure why I even bother to invite my mother to family events anymore if it always ends badly like it did yesterday. Yesterday my mother came to a family event super drunk and shortly after she arrived she got into a argument with my sister and it escalated to the point where the police had to be called. I'm not sure what to do with my mother anymore I don't want to cut her out of family activities or out of my life completely but I feel like I might have to do that. Is there any advice that anyone can give.

[Sunflower123]

You could tell your mother what you are considering doing and why to see if she is willing to curtail her bad behavior. If it persists after that, you’ve been candid with her and given her a chance. At that point, you could have family gatherings without her in peace. I know she is your mother but there are other family members involved who deserve to have a family event without the memory of the fiasco your mother turns it into. Is she an alcoholic? Is she willing to get help? I hope you come to a decision that brings you peace and healing.

[MickeyCheeky]

Have you already talked with her about this? Is she aware of her behavior?

What about telling her next time the event is a non-drinking event and you need her to respect this. That if people must drink they be asked not attend.

[Otherworlder92]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

You could tell your mother what you are considering doing and why to see if she is willing to curtail her bad behavior. If it persists after that, you’ve been candid with her and given her a chance. At that point, you could have family gatherings without her in peace. I know she is your mother but there are other family members involved who deserve to have a family event without the memory of the fiasco your mother turns it into. Is she an alcoholic? Is she willing to get help? I hope you come to a decision that brings you peace and healing.

My mother is a alcoholic and she doesn't really want to get help but I'm going to tell her what I'm considering doing but I have a feeling that it won't make a difference but I will at least try.

[Otherworlder92]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Have you already talked with her about this? Is she aware of her behavior?

I have talked to her about this issue before but she doesn't see anything wrong with her behavior.

[Otherworlder92]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

What about telling her next time the event is a non-drinking event and you need her to respect this. That if people must drink they be asked not attend.

If I told her that I then she most likely won't even bother to come at all but it's a good suggestion.