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Old Oct 23, 2017, 01:20 PM
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Hello. I moved to a new country. I'm 15 years old. I study in a new school, local language of the country has not yet learned. I communicate with children in English and a little bit on their own, I learn a little bit. When I arrived, it was in May, many children came and got acquainted with me, among them there was one girl. She just wondered where I came from, as my name, introduced myself and my friends. On the same day, I realized that I began to feel her feelings for her. She up to the vacation (June 20) met me, always greeted with a smile, found out how I sometimes called in the company of girlfriends, something she called her in her language (ofc it ain't bad words). A couple of days before the holidays, I still decided to take her to take a walk. I went up to her (she was with two friends, but they were behind him), said that I want to call her to take a walk, I want to take the phone and schedule a meeting, which I agreed to. In the correspondence I did not ask her many questions (although now I understand that the questions were not the most interesting, apparently I was too carried away by the fact that she too showed interest to me, to another girl I would select questions with interest and an expanded answer). In general, all ended with my last message about the offer to walk was ignored and on the avatar she even put a photo with a guy (although the poor fellow did not last 5 days and then put his solitary). I thought that I either nakosyachil, or she decided to otshit, okay, nothing like that. But alas, with the new school year, everything went on a new one - it always says hello and asks me how I sent an air kiss and the like. And I often listen to music, very often, so she spotted it the other day and stopped me, let's ask what I'm listening to. The conversation did not last long, as it grew into the naming of the names of her friends who came and did not faint so ears either in their own language or in English "duu uu lik shii", and besides all else I was strained by the fact that she used to be interrupted communication, so I left. I do this to the fact that at the moment it shows its interest so far. So I have a question - how to analyze this behavior, correctly learn the goal and make a decision - just ignore or try again? I know a little, I'm still in a weak school, I thought that maybe she does this to many guys, but then remembering that I saw her only in the company of girlfriends or one, her social networks, where the activity is shown more by relatives, then guys, this opinion has disappeared. Although the other day not far from her office I met her in a company of guys, I do not know why she followed them, to play, talk or something, but she greeted me, something started to talk, and I left on the pooher. She is 14 years old, I would like to hear your opinion - it's in her age that the cockroaches are such, or she is playing, or confused, or after the first sewing she wants to do the same. Of course, I will make a decision myself, I do not care about such things at all, I can even try it a hundred times, but for now I'm only meditating and I'm not averse to reading other people's opinions - is it worth trying something with such a girl?
P.S. Please, sorry for my English. I used online translator, I hope you'll understand me correctly
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Old Oct 23, 2017, 03:02 PM
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I'm sorry but the online translator really failed you because it's very difficult to understand your post, and some of the words didn't get translated so it's hard to know what you are saying. Also, just for future reference, it helps to break your story up into shorter paragraphs to make it easier for us to read.

That said, from what I'm gathering, it doesn't seem like there is any harm in asking her to go for a walk again. I don't know that she'll say yes, you just have to be prepared for rejection. She could very likely say no.

Good luck.

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Old Oct 23, 2017, 03:08 PM
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Translators are horrible.
They make things very difficult to understand.

If you could break your story up into smaller paragraphs and avoid using slang or curse words it may help.

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Old Oct 23, 2017, 03:29 PM
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Hello. Welcome to PC. I agree with the posters listed above. Good luck.
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Old Oct 25, 2017, 01:08 PM
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** I translated the text myself, now everything should be clear.
Hello. I moved to a new country and I'm 15 years old. I study at a local school, I have not yet learned the local language of the country and communicate with children in English or slightly in their language (that I learned).

When I arrived it was in May, many children came and got acquainted with me, among them there was one girl. She just wondered where am I from, what's my name and introduced herself and her friends. On the same day, I realized that I fell in love. She met me at school before the summer holidays, she always greeted me with a smile, asked how I feel and sometimes asked to say some words in her language. The day before the holidays, I decided to invite her to take a walk. I approached her and said that I wanna call for a walk, take a number and set up a meeting so I got agreement from her. In the WhatsApp I didn't ask her many questions (although I now understand that my questions weren't the most interesting, apparently I got too carried away that she, too, showed interest in me). So all ended up because my message about the offer to walk was ignored, she even uploaded a photo with another guy on the profile (although 5 days she didn't hold out and uploaded a single photo). I thought that I made a small failure or she just decided to blow off me, so I wasn't care. But with the new school year it started anew, as if nothing had happened she greets with a smile, sends air kisses and the like. I listen to music very often so she noticed it and the other day she began to ask me about this topic.

I mean that even now she shows her interest. Hence the question - how to understand this behavior and its purpose? I need to find another girl or or try again? She is 14 years old. She is almost always in the company of girlfriends, although in the last days I saw her and with the guys - maybe they just talked along the way, maybe she communicates with everyone, I don't know. When she was in the company of guys she greeted me and something started to talk, but I already left (I just got confused about how to treat her, so she was in a noisy company, which break off the conversation not the first time). So I wanna hear your opinion. Ofc I can tryna do anything I won't lose anything, but for now I'm just making a decision.
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