[palsera27]

I need to someone who hurt me how I have accepted that she may not respond. I have accepted that I may not get answer. I have realized with the help of other forms that I have no control how she responds.

It's sounds complicated but I was hurt by her actions. I love her and hate her at the same time, but in order to move on need to talk to her. Someone on another forum is insisting that i talk her.

I have built a fantasy image of this person both good and bad.

However, I don't this person that well and she probably has no idea how I feel. I'm not sure if she's gay. I can't assume her identity either way.

I want to talk to her but I can't find the words. Also I don't feel comfortable telling her my feelings trough her work email. I have personal email. I obtained it through spokeo.

I need to tell how I feel but I can't find the words.
So where do I start?

I'm kind of i this 12 step program and it's damned if I do tell this woman how i feel and damned I don't.

I'm choosing to tell her but just can't find the words

[Crazy Hitch]

I think you should invite her out somewhere casual maybe for a cup of coffee to see how you two connect.

I don't think you need to dive in first telling her exactly how you feel, just yet.

[MickeyCheeky]

Inviting her casually can be a good idea. Do you think it might be easier that way?

[Sunflower123]

I agree with Crazy Hitch. I had a guy one time who I had a slight feeling liked me but never asked me out or even talked to me. He showed up one day with a gift and professed his feelings for me. It was zero to one hundred and I wasn’t prepared. I know your situation isn’t that extreme but if you just drop it on this person they may not be prepared. It might be a good idea to start with coffee or lunch. You’ll have a better feel after that. I wish you the best of luck however you decide to proceed.