[eclairparty98]

I feel very satisfied with my position, at the moment and I'm really grateful things are going well. But sometimes I feel like it wouldn't be so bad to have a partner or a companion. I stopped talking to my best friend a year ago - we went our separate ways. So it's just me and my loved ones which is great but then why do people settle down or embrace a relationship?? Family is incomprehensibly wonderful and ultimately irreplaceable but I think a companion would be great.

At the same time, I feel guilty because it's like there's a person in my head telling me "are your loved ones not good enough?"

They certainly are ''good enough'' but is it okay to want a partner?? IT'S so confusing because I know the answer is ''yes'' but what does this say?? Do I really need a partner??

I get along alright without one but it's very lonely at times. It'd be nice to share life with someone else; someone kind, caring, compassionate and thoughtful. Give my family a little break, lol.

[sky457]

It's definitely a valid thought.

Let that positivity flow into making new friends and a potential relationship then. You're already most of the way there by being happy with your family and your ability to be present for them. You can do that for someone else now.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by sky457

It's definitely a valid thought.

Let that positivity flow into making new friends a potential relationship then. You're already most of the way there by being happy with your family and your ability to be present for them. You can do that for someone else now.

Thank you, sky457 what a lovely thing to say. I appreciate it.

[Entity06]

It's totally ok.
We all need all sorts of relationships/connections, one doesn't compensate for the other. Most studies seem to suggest connection/relationships are crucial for a happy, good life(emotionally/mentally and even for health it can have a major impact) and close family and often the relationship one can have with a romantic partner is the most intimate and complex because it contains a lot of different sides to it.

So no, don't feel guilty about that. I feel the same way for ex, except I don't really have much of a family, just my mom, and I am almost friendless.

[graystreet]

Of course it's okay to want a partner. It's part of healthy growth and development as we go through adulthood. I think it's wonderful that you have a good relationship with your family. Having a good relationship with a partner should only add to those relationships; it isn't that you'd be having a partner instead of family. Friends, intimate relationships, and family are all very healthy things to have.

[Turtle_Rider]

It's ok. It's completely normal. You don't need to feel guilty about that.

Hope you can find one soon