[HuggyBear]

I have been living in London for seven years.

My children live in France, near Paris.

When I go to France to see them, when I leave to come back here, my son cries.

He is 13.

Currently I have no work and can evaluate different possibilities.

I may even go back to France to stay near my children.

It would be another adventure because to find work, even as software developer, is not easy.

I'm concerned about my relationship with my ex-wife.

My son would like to live with me, if I go back to France.

What do you think?

What if my ex reacts badly?

What if she forbids my son to live with me or even to let him see me at weekends?

Last time I went to France to see my children, she treated me badly.

[graystreet]

I think that you have a right to be near your children, and your children have a right to be able to see you on a regular basis. Here in the States, I have heard that some custody agreements require that ex's live within a certain distance of each other.

It doesn't matter if your ex reacts badly; they are your children as well. She chose to have children with you. Unless there were harm to the children for some reason (and there doesn't seem to be), to be upset that you would want to spend more time with your children, or they with you, would be selfish.

You may also be able to find a job back in France, which would be another positive thing, outside of having more time to spend with your children. I am not married, and have never had children. I can understand, however, how an ex who wasn't very nice to you would make you have reservations about this. But why not look into it, and see what you find out? I don't think it could hurt.

[~Christina]

Be closer to your kids , they grow up so fast and run off to start there own lives , enjoy when you can.

[HuggyBear]

Thank you very much for your support.