He text me 24/7 but doesnt want me

hello, i really need your help on this. there is this guy who ive known for 8 months now, he texts me 24/7 (literally all the time) about everything you can think off from life choices to stupid things like picking a jacket for him.

when we met he was just out of a rship which affected him. we have opened the subject before and he told me that he is interested in me and then after a while he told me it didnt click from his side but then his bff told me he is afraid of smthng serious.

we stopped talking for 4 months and then we were back on track talking like before (24/7) and then after few days of talking he mentioned he has a gf now but never brought the subject up again and like literally he would tell me goodnight and then goes offline. (everything made me sure he likes me and that he is lying about agf. until 1 day he told me he is going to see his gf(she lives abroad) so i was very angry and told him that you cant talk to me while you have a gf. If i was her i wouldnt be with you. It was so unclear to me since he talks to me all the time and posts pur chats (which has hearts and all) on social media.

he replied by saying you are a good friend of mine and i dont wnat to lose you. Can you please help !

Hello. Welcome to PC. It sounds like what he said. You’ve become a very good friend to him, he cares for you and doesn’t want to lose you. Can you live with that? It’s questionable whether he really has a gf based on what you’ve described but he has mentioned that it doesn’t click with you on his side. That could always change but be prepared if it doesn’t. Best wishes.

Welcome to PC. I've kinda been in this situation. My ex texts me after a few days but he has a gf. It's frustrating. He probably really cares about you but then there's some aspect of me that think that if a guy contacts but doesn't want you, he's just using you as a side piece or wants something from you without having to work hard at a relationship. I don't know much about situation but I'd be kinda careful with situations like this. If you two are friends then that's great. If there's some romantic feelings then I'd be careful because you may get hurt. I'd say don't be so concerned about him and go ahead with your life. Guys who have texted me most of the time either want something like sex out of me or liked me in some kind of way. A friend wouldn't always text you unless they really like you. They would at least give you space. He could be kinda obsessed with you. You know whats best for you. Follow what feels right to you. I hope everything goes well for you.

Do you want to be friend with him or not? If you do, I'd say believe him when he says he has a girlfriend (after all, he's the one who keeps saying that, and it's not like he's cheating on her.. you're just talking, right?). If the situation bothers you, or you don't want to be friends with him, I think the only way is to tell him the truth. :/

Sounds to me to be an all around bad situation.

First, if he likes you then why would you bother with a guy that can't tell you the truth about where you stand with him? I wouldn't stick around for a wishy washy non committal person like that, especially if I was attracted to them and it sounds like you wanted something with him originally and in this case, it's just going to keep causing you stress. Wondering where you stand and if he'll ever come clean about how he feels.

If he indeed has a gf now and is telling the truth about that, then wtf is he doing texing with you 24x7. If he's talking to you all the time where is this gf of his and if he really has one, I worry about the fact that he's talking to you all the time instead of being with or talking to her as much. The behavior he is showing with you is what you do with a gf when you have one. So this is a bad thing too. either he has a gf and he's neglecting her or he's lying about having a gf and has no backbone to commit to the one he clearly is interested in, you.

I'm not sure that there is any kind of upside to this. It might be nice to know he likes you but does it really matter since he obviously cannot own up to that?

I say if you cut it off you've probably dodged a bullet.

I think he is pretty direct and straight forward. He says it didn’t click romantically but he considers you a good friend. Why he is texting I have no clue. Is he texting friendly stuff or intimate?

You sound like an angry dude who is upset about a girl friend zoning him. I get that it sucks, but this dude isn´t interested in you. Or he might be inside of his head, but the message he is trying to put out into the world is that he is not. Why not just enjoy being his friend? Friends can be great!