How to create peace between your partner and your family?

That may NOT be one of your options. You cant make something be what it will never be. You need to look at what your choice will be if your desire will NEVER happen. Is that REALLY the life you want to live with someone who puts his own demands over your happiness when in reality it is NOT necessary to accomplish what he is trying to force on you. It is FORCE when he says go ahead & leave. He is saying "I dont love you enough to make it work" when he says fine leave & end the relationship. That is manipulation tovget you to do ONLY what he wants. You see it only in this one area of lufe now but I can assure you....if he has this philosophy in this area it will overfliw ibto others when he knows he can manipulate you to ALWAYS get what he wants & everything is only ok when you BOTH want the same thing in the same way. Life like this can turn into hell over years of always giving him ONLY what he wants & you have tovdo without in it is in conflict with him. Do you really want that kind of control over your life?

You say he is the inly one you will ever love.....lets say in the future you find someone that getsvalong with your family & is totally willing to comoromise & give you the life you really want. You are young, you have lits of life ahead if you. Why settle for less than what you REALLY want out if life.

The guy I got married to was a really nice guy but he showed a RED FLAG in an attitude area that should have been a wedding stopper. I talked myself out of my concerns & went ahead with the wedding. Big mistake....it almost cost me my life years later when I ended up trapped in the marriage with no way out I thought other than suicide. I wasnt successful the many times I tried & came close. I was finally able to escape & looking back, it was ignoring those original issues that were the cause of my unhappiness throughout the marriage & I didnt respect him from the beginning becauss of those issues & how they effected my life....it grew worse with time not better. I would have been better off never getting married than ending up the way it did. My freedom now has showed me that.

So it us important to look at the big picture & what values you really want in life. If you dont mind that your H's (after you marry this guy) needs & wants will never take your happiness into consideratikn when they are in conflict with his... .then you will be fine....but dont later on have an issue with it & say you didnt know he was that way because he is showing youbhisbtrue colors now when he tells you go ahead & leave if you dont want to live here. He is telling you "my way or the highway....see you jyst becauss you dont agree with me & you have needs that differ from mine"....sorry but that is a HUGE red flag in my book of life. I wouldnt want to marry a guy unable to compromise on the BIG things in life when there are differences.

But then again, maybe he knows you arent strong enough to stand strong against your family when you need to. You sedm a bit wishy-washy in that you try to do everything that pleases everyone else in your life but without being willing to stand up for your own desires & wants & taking your own stand in life.

If your parents hadnt told you what to major in & what career to have....what would your OWN CHOICE have been?