[Artchic528]

My dad has a "lady friend" and that's all I'm comfortable describing her as right now. It's just so damn weird not seeing him with Mom anymore, but he seems more affectionate with his "lady friend" than I ever recall him being with Mom. Still, so strange....

I guess I'm asking if I ever have to use the "G" word to describe her? Cause...honestly, I don't think I'm there.

If you're not comfortable, you're not comfortable. I would say after a significant amount of time together, and after getting to know her much better, then you may feel more comfortable with this arrangement. I can imagine it would be difficult at first. (((Hugs)))

[divine1966]

They aren’t even divorced yet. I wouldn’t particularly want to meet anyone’s “lady friend”, let alone parent’s, if the person is still married to someone else, particularly your mother.

Saying that if their marriage wasn’t good, it is understandable he is affectionate with a new lady. My stepdaughter loves to visit us from out of state because she likes seeing her dad happy with me as well as seeing us getting out and about enjoying life. She never wanted to visit when her mom and dad were married because they were miserable, dad was mistreated by mom and they did nothing fun because how bad their marriage was. So if your parents are happy apart, it might be better for everyone involved.

[MickeyCheeky]

Perhaps you just need to let some time pass to get used to it

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by divine1966

They aren’t even divorced yet. I wouldn’t particularly want to meet anyone’s “lady friend”, let alone parent’s, if the person is still married to someone else, particularly your mother.

Saying that if their marriage wasn’t good, it is understandable he is affectionate with a new lady. My stepdaughter loves to visit us from out of state because she likes seeing her dad happy with me as well as seeing us getting out and about enjoying life. She never wanted to visit when her mom and dad were married because they were miserable, dad was mistreated by mom and they did nothing fun because how bad their marriage was. So if your parents are happy apart, it might be better for everyone involved.

It's not my relationship, not my place to judge. True, they haven't filed for divorce, but what of it?

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

It's not my relationship, not my place to judge. True, they haven't filed for divorce, but what of it?

Not sure what you mean by judgement. At no point I expressed judgement but rather personal level of comfort. Preferring things certain way isn’t a judgement

You said you are uncomfortable with the whole thing. I said I’d be uncomfortable too with meeting new partners of anybody if people are still married.

In my experience many children (of any age) would be apprehensive meeting new partners of their parents if parents are still married. Nothing to do with judgement. Just level of comfort. I don’t know what you mean by “what of it”.

If it doesn’t bother you, then you can just dismiss my opinion and my post. Didn’t mean to upset you.

[~Christina]

I think there just need a passage of time for you to be “ok” with your parents seeing other people.

I’m sorry this has happened to your family. I do remember in the past you spoke of your dad scaring / harming you..... maybe his unhappiness with your mom was/is part of the problem. That is not a excuse and I could never forgive whom ever hurt me in such a manner.

Good wishes

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Not sure what you mean by judgement. At no point I expressed judgement but rather personal level of comfort. Preferring things certain way isn’t a judgement

You said you are uncomfortable with the whole thing. I said I’d be uncomfortable too with meeting new partners of anybody if people are still married.

In my experience many children (of any age) would be apprehensive meeting new partners of their parents if parents are still married. Nothing to do with judgement. Just level of comfort. I don’t know what you mean by “what of it”.

If it doesn’t bother you, then you can just dismiss my opinion and my post. Didn’t mean to upset you.

I'm sorry, that reply came off as rather abrasive, didn't it? I was working on 18 hours of no sleep and being horribly sleep deprived. I apologize and value your feedback. You've been very helpful to me. I shouldn't have posted when I was so cranky.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

I'm sorry, that reply came off as rather abrasive, didn't it? I was working on 18 hours of no sleep and being horribly sleep deprived. I apologize and value your feedback. You've been very helpful to me. I shouldn't have posted when I was so cranky.

No problem. You are obviously stressed about this. I would be too. My parents are married over 50 years and I’d be distressed if they got divorced and dated others regardless if their marriage is good or bad. It’s stressful to have different family dynamics all of a sudden. Hang in there