[CalamityJane425]

I really couldn't find a forum so I thought that I'd click onto this one because I've had NO ONE to talk to about this.
I have ZERO knowledge of ANY relationships. ZIP, NADA!
My Mother has been married 3 times she is on her 3rd marriage & is unhappy.
My Father had been married 4-5 times I kind of lost count. My biological parents should have stayed together my life might have been different.
I had friends in elementary, then in high school. However in my adult life that has been so difficult. Once I hit 21 I had unstable mood swings which was to go on for many years.
I had one relationship while in the military but my mood swings (which was later diagnosed many years later as bipolar) was a major monkey wrench, plus I wanted out of the military due to the sexual harassment. I haven't had ANY relationship since I don't think a couple of flings count.
I've never seen what a good healthy relationship looks like. When I try to talk to someone about this I get dismissed or laughed at , in short I'm not taken seriously or I'm told this: "Well that's everyone" and I hate that BS statement. So in other words no one listens to me. I've had that my whole life.
So I live alone, I've never married ( that may be a good thing), the few so called friends I've encountered weren't really friends. Users, people who just weren't on the same page, people who couldn't communicate in a conversation or just plain dull. I'm stuck in an awful town the Pacific Northwest. Thank God, that the sun has been out these last couple of days because for 10 months a year it's gray & the people especially the Seattle people are awful.
Seattle people are in two categories: stuck up or needy/clingy. Oh wait one more category terribly insecure meaning if you have pretty good self esteem you basically have to hold their hand like their Mother or something....NO THANK YOU! I like self confidence + someone that I actually like. Relationships? LoL to me? That's a fairytale that's on TV or in the movies not in real life. Relationships huh? What is that?
I don't know what that means.

You could always research what a healthy relationship looks like. There's plenty of material online outlining unhealthy vs. healthy relationships and their characteristics. Learning about healthy relationships is a good place to start. Fairytales DO happen. A healthy relationship IS possible, but you have to know what one looks like, so you know what you're looking for when you start down that path.

As far as friendships go, you could join social groups of interest where you are more likely to run into like-minded people? If you enjoy outdoor activities for example, you could join a hiking or a kayaking group... or whatever interests you. Or perhaps take a recreational class in an area of interest. There are ways to find like-minded people... there are Meetup groups. I've joined Meetups.com and only went to one gathering..... but there's social groups for practically every interest imaginable on there. There has to be at least some people in Seattle who are more like yourself... you just have to dig around to find them. (((((Hugs)))))))

[MickeyCheeky]

You might start doing some activities based on the things you like, and meet new people that way. Do you have any hobbies?

[CalamityJane425]

Originally Posted by golden_eve

You could always research what a healthy relationship looks like. There's plenty of material online outlining unhealthy vs. healthy relationships and their characteristics. Learning about healthy relationships is a good place to start. Fairytales DO happen. A healthy relationship IS possible, but you have to know what one looks like, so you know what you're looking for when you start down that path.

As far as friendships go, you could join social groups of interest where you are more likely to run into like-minded people? If you enjoy outdoor activities for example, you could join a hiking or a kayaking group... or whatever interests you. Or perhaps take a recreational class in an area of interest. There are ways to find like-minded people... there are Meetup groups. I've joined Meetups.com and only went to one gathering..... but there's social groups for practically every interest imaginable on there. There has to be at least some people in Seattle who are more like yourself... you just have to dig around to find them. (((((Hugs)))))))

I'd need to do a lot of research I might go on YouTube for a basic tutorial. As far as interests I love art. I used to hike however that was when I was in middle school, I wouldn't want to hike now for my own reasons. The trouble is I've been out of circulation I've had to find housing for myself, pay bills, that I haven't had the time to find recreational activities. So far I've tried volunteering with an Aids hospice didn't quite work out surprisingly a lot of uptight people there & no one would talk to me. I volunteered at two separate AIDS organizations.
The diversity is awful here. If your not a computer geek & into the same TV shows or go out drinking your not part of the crowd. No joke.
SO the best I can do is take my time although the research is giving me a big fat headache + makes me tired. But I'll keep plodding along.
For now all I really want to do is save for a personal trainer & get art supplies, people are a big fat disappointment.
It's difficult here I'm telling you the Seattle freeze is real & those that aren't seem so clingy ( I always get those eww).
Thank you so much for your reply

[CalamityJane425]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

You might start doing some activities based on the things you like, and meet new people that way. Do you have any hobbies?

Well I once had a photography hobby a long time ago! I suppose I could pick that up.
Here is what happened Mickey. I was sick a long, long time. While I was in High school I was into sports, I had a basic photography hobby, and I even ran cross country. When I hit my twenties I had a mental breakdown & stayed sick due to a lack of access to Doctors + zero family help.
I didn't know how to live on my own. I was emotionally frozen at age 12 and I was in my 20's.
That was part of the problem. Now, it's hard because I'm not into computers or techie stuff, or anything 21st century.
I like all things Hawaiian, old Tv shows that came out a long time ago
Reading, and all things artistic including painting & photography.
I wouldn't know where to start.
Basically for right now I just want to work out with a personal trainer & perhaps take up some form of art.
Confession: I am NOT a 21st century woman. I'm young but dislike much of anything to do with technology except for the camera's.
But perhaps I could meet people that love antiques I love antiques for collecting.
It would be challenging. You know I even loathe social media. I can't stand it.
Thank you for replying.