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No, you are not overreacting. You have made yourself clear and he is looking for more. This may be the end of this one, unfortunately. He seems like he really wants more if he's talking about his needs and has brought the issue up multiple times. Definitely don't string him along.

I don’t understand looking for friendship on a dating site? I also don’t understand why so many women look for friendship on dating sites and look specifically for men friends, men who aren’t there looking for friends? If you aren’t up to dating, then why not have friendships with girlfriends? Have you tried meetups or hobby groups to find friends?

thank you golden_eve for your feedback. So he wrote back that being friends is ok with him. I felt we had no chance to be friends if everything from his side is an angle for 'more' and I am feeling pressured. That would be stringing him along and could also result in very hurt feelings.

I have had good friendships with men before. We'll see what happens.

There were a couple of other things that bothered me. One was that he criticized me for wearing the same outfit (almost the same) twice in a row rather than changing and asked me if I was depressed. Well it is valid that I am depressed and it's a symptom of depression in women to not vary their wardrobe as much as they would otherwise but I thought this was kind of intrusive... then he followed later saying not to think of my depression and then I won't be depressed.. basically I could talk myself out of it.

Kijiji isn't a dating site, so seeking friendship totally works.

As for the latest guy you are not over reacting, you are being upfront with what you need. That's respectable.

You're absolutely right about that TheSadGirl. That's why I'm on kijiji and not the dating sites. Still most men who contact me ( my ad if for both men and women) are looking for sex in one way or another.

I texted my new male friend I had gone out for coffee with a lady friend and he texted back if I could talk to her about him. I had no idea what he meant... Turns out he wants me to find him a girlfriend. Well I said no I can't do that. It is all coming back to him wanting a girl friend and he can't seem to associate any other thought process with me. I'm close to breaking it off completely. Then he said he was joking.

Many a truth has been said in jest.

kijiji has a 'friendship and networking' board. it is not for dating and they will take down ads that look like dating ads. I'm actually looking for men and women it is just that men are the main ones who respond. I have tried meetups but I don't do as well in groups and never actually made a single friend from any meetup activity. I tend to do better one on one which is why I tried kijiji.

Well I took down the ad. Was not having a good experience. Not attracting compatible people. My pdoc was adamant that this last fellow was aggressive, had a problem with boundaries and was not a good choice for me as a friend. I feel much better now that a few days have passed and he's not occupying real estate in my thoughts anymore... whew!

I feel like the sound of one hand clapping on this thread. That is the story of my life.

I think you did well to take down the ad.

GOOD! Well done.