Estranged Adult Son and Daughter-in-Law

How does a mother deal with an adult son and his wife who refuse to speak with her?

Grandchildren are only allowed to call to say thank you for gifts. None of my calls are answered. I am blocked from communication with them.

Can I ask what happened to make them cut you out?

Hello BdJmDs: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry you are having to endure this wrenching experience. I'm certainly no expert with regard to this type of situation. But from my perspective there is, unfortunately, not much you can do other than to do what is necessary to take care of yourself. If your son & his wife are choosing to cut you off, there's no way to make them change their minds, unless you can figure out what caused them to do this to begin with & then find a way to change that. Here is a link to a website that offers some help with regard to these kinds of unfortunate situations. Perhaps it can be of some benefit:

Family Cut-Offs - tools you can use when a family member cuts you out - Courtenay Therapist - Comox Valley - Esther Kane - Registered Clinical Counsellor

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I'm sorry you are experiencing this. If you can try to figure out and understand what led up to this, you might be able to solve the problem and perhaps it can be worked out. You could try to write them a note or speak to other family members to see if they have discussed with them what happened. I am going through a similiar situation although I know what caused it and it was my husband and I having to remove one of our grandchildren that we have custody of from their environment due to alcoholism and abuse so currently there is an OFP and no communications, not sure really what the future will bring for our situation aside from a very long road, but I hope that you are able to work through yours.

My heart goes out to you. Two of our adult children pulled that stunt on us. We could deal with the kids but keeping the grand kids from us was devastating. I don't know why our own children do these things. We didn't raise them that way.they have since come to their senses and we have a relationship again. I hope that your son will come to his senses soon.