[Siddiqui97]

I'm an attractive 23 year old female. I date frequently and occasionally meet someone that I am interested in. However, for some reason I cannot stay interested. Every relationship goes the same way: I feel attracted and interested, we start dating, after a few weeks I am not only not interested, but I am repulsed by the person. Everything about them bothers me to the point I don't even want to try and talk it out. I want to be able to have a successful relationship, and it's not going to happen if this keeps going on! Can anyone tell me what's wrong?

[Skeezyks]

Hello Siddiqui: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral.

I don't believe I can be of much help with regard to your concern. (Hopefully there will be some other members who will have some insights they can share.) In the meantime, one way of approaching this would be to take some of the quizzes & tests that are on offer here on PC. Here's a link to the listing of quizzes & tests that are available:

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I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

Have you thought about talking to a therapist?

[BadWolfC]

I've had the same problem my whole life (I'm 26), with only one exception, and I still have no idea why.

[unaluna]

How is your parents' marriage?

[hvert]

I think that's just how dating works The really good part of this situation is that you are realizing that you aren't interested after a few weeks instead of spending months or years in a relationship you just aren't that into.

It sounds like what initially attracts you to a person is out of alignment with the things you want in a relationship.

Also, who is interested first, you or them? I used to find it easy to become interested in people who expressed interest in me.

[Siddiqui97]

Originally Posted by unaluna

How is your parents' marriage?

Its perfect! I come from a very happy, loving and stable family background

[Siddiqui97]

Originally Posted by hvert

I think that's just how dating works The really good part of this situation is that you are realizing that you aren't interested after a few weeks instead of spending months or years in a relationship you just aren't that into.

It sounds like what initially attracts you to a person is out of alignment with the things you want in a relationship.

Also, who is interested first, you or them? I used to find it easy to become interested in people who expressed interest in me.

It's usually the guy who approaches me but its been the other way too.

[lady411]

I was the same way at your age. I wasn't ready at all to settle down at your age. And it's ok to not be ready to settle. Take your time. I also came from a very happy loving non-divorced home. I'm now 34, married with kids. And it still feels like maybe i should have waited a little longer. So don't rush into anything.

[Bill3]

If your parents’ marriage is “perfect”, then one possibility is that what you have seen of guys so far, while at first perhaps attractive, always so far turns out to not measure up to your parents’ relationship, or perhaps to your dad.

How well does this possibility resonate with you?

[Siddiqui97]

Originally Posted by Bill3

If your parents’ marriage is “perfect”, then one possibility is that what you have seen of guys so far, while at first perhaps attractive, always so far turns out to not measure up to your parents’ relationship, or perhaps to your dad.

How well does this possibility resonate with you?

No I mean my dad isn’t THAT nice, I get turned off more in a sexual way, like I’m just not attracted to that person anymore..

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by Siddiqui97

I'm an attractive 23 year old female. I date frequently and occasionally meet someone that I am interested in. However, for some reason I cannot stay interested. Every relationship goes the same way: I feel attracted and interested, we start dating, after a few weeks I am not only not interested, but I am repulsed by the person. Everything about them bothers me to the point I don't even want to try and talk it out. I want to be able to have a successful relationship, and it's not going to happen if this keeps going on! Can anyone tell me what's wrong?

I'd honestly slow down and just meet a few people, hang out and don't necessarily jump into a relationship with them until you know that's someone that you want to be with for longer term. What seems to be happening is that quite possibly you're rushing to the dating status based on superficial information - that's not to say you're necessarily superficial so let me explain. in the first few days or even weeks of knowing someone, what you know about them is typically superficial. it's not until you get past that stuff and get to know them deeper that you can and should pursue them as a potential bf/gf, IMO.