Cruel ways of ending a friendship or relationship

I’ve allowed this person to toy with me forever.

This one is the type of thing that gets a girl a diagnosis!

In defense of ghosting, a person could be disillusioned by a friend and feel too afraid/embarrassed to say goodbye. For example, my friend was battling psychosis and was addimant his friend was out to get him and couldn't bring himself to say why he no longer wanted to be friends. So he deactivated all of his social media and stopped talking to everyone without notice in an attempt to get away from what was causing him so much anxiety, you see

Yeah that is very cruel. And yeah I would never do any of these things. Especially since I’ve had some so called “friends” do stuff like ghosting and giving dumb reasons. This thread was just out of curiosity. Nothing in particular.

Glad you did not give him anymore satisfaction!

Then I obsessively ruminated over it for years! the hurt without closure is awful for one with OCD!

I’m glad you no longer allow it.

Oh I agree. I still ruminate over friendships that have ended without closure as well. It is aweful.

I agree.

Oh okay yeah I see what you mean. I actually believe one friend in high school ghosted me for this exact reason. Pitied me and also may have been delusional.

I was the one who actually cut this person out of my life after what she did but... A friend once stood me up after she'd let me travel 700 km to go to an event together. She cancelled with a lame excuse but I am sure she was never actually planning on showing up.

To be honest, I've also just deleted people from Facebook without giving them any reason - people I knew in real life but my only contact with them was FB.... But they weren't very close friends. And I was depressed, feeling very alone, and sick of all these false friends. One person messaged me after (I was surprised she'd even noticed!) and told me "it's a shame you deleted me, wish you all the best" and I just thought "really, I haven't heard from you in forever, don't pretend you care!"

Wow that was very rude of your friend. I wouldn’t have hung out woth her anymore either. I’ve traveled a couple hours to visit a friend only to have them cancel so I understand just how frustrating it is. The friend also gave a lame excuse as well, it is easy to tell if an excuse is legitimate or false in my opinion. And yeah, I’ve deleted people who I don’t know or talk to anymore as well from facebook. Usually they don’t notice or care which doesn’t surprise me.

Deleting from fb the people you don’t even know and don’t interact with is totally fine. I’ve done it a few times. I don’t think they’d notice or care. I don’t notice when someone does it to me, or if I do, I haven’t cared.

This ‘ghosting’ is the kind like when you’ve slept with someone and they never call you again. Or worse...

Yeah exactly. I agree.