[rdgrad15]

what are some of the cruelest ways someone could end a friendship or relationship? This question was brought to my attention by someone else on another thread and I thought it was a good question to ask on its own thread. I give credit to the person who made the suggestion.

[Crazy Hitch]

Via text message if you've been in a committed relationship with a partner.

Or cheating on them.

Ghosting. That is beyond cruel.

[FallDuskTrain]

My best friend from childhood, when we were 35 years told me “i do not like you anymore”. We haven’t spoken since. Now, I am 40.
She was my friend since we were 11 years old, grew up together, closer than sisters at times.

[winter loneliness]

I agree that ghosting is spineless.

Ending the relationship or friendship on a verbally hurtful note. For instance, saying something along the lines of "you suck, I don't want you anymore." Having that come out of nowhere is also cruel, not to mention immature. I'm curious, what exactly made you want to start this thread for yourself besides just seeing it in another thread?

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

Via text message if you've been in a committed relationship with a partner.

Or cheating on them.

Agreed. That is cowardly too.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

Ghosting. That is beyond cruel.

Oh yes I’ve had friends do that to me. I believe friends who do that were not real friends to begin with since they obviously don't respect you enough to give you a reason.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain

My best friend from childhood, when we were 35 years told me “i do not like you anymore”. We haven’t spoken since. Now, I am 40.
She was my friend since we were 11 years old, grew up together, closer than sisters at times.

Aww that was very harsh of her. Basically throwing away a friendship. Did she explain why she didn’t like you?

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by winter loneliness

I agree that ghosting is spineless.

Totally agree. The person obviously doesn’t have sense of respect and probably wasn’t a real friend to begin with.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by starrysky

Ending the relationship or friendship on a verbally hurtful note. For instance, saying something along the lines of "you suck, I don't want you anymore." Having that come out of nowhere is also cruel, not to mention immature. I'm curious, what exactly made you want to start this thread for yourself besides just seeing it in another thread?

Yeah I agree. And I just felt like posting it. No particular reason.

[divine1966]

Move out while your partner is away on a business trip, and not even leave a note (I know someone whose ex did that). It’s only acceptable if your partner is abusive and you fear for your life

[winter loneliness]

Leaving you and marrying another woman. Within several months.

[nicoleflynn]

Disappearing without a word.

[TishaBuv]

Without cause or warning— Standing you up for a date and simply never calling again. So, I never called him again, either.

Moving out while he was at work, but leaving a note and an engagement ring. I did that because I was afraid to try to move out while telling him I was leaving. It was cruel because he went off the deep end. There was no good way to end that one.

Possible trigger:

After luring you to their lair... seeing your body, rejecting you saying “I don’t want this”, and leaving you in an empty place to OD, abandoned.

. Then, when you come to, they have unfriended you on fb!

[TishaBuv]

Making you feel loved and like they are now going to be in a relationship with you, but then not calling again for months.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Move out while your partner is away on a business trip, and not even leave a note (I know someone whose ex did that). It’s only acceptable if your partner is abusive and you fear for your life

Wow that is cruel. And yeah leaving an abusive relationship is the only exception.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by winter loneliness

Leaving you and marrying another woman. Within several months.

Yeah that is terrible.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by nicoleflynn

Disappearing without a word.

Yep that seems to be the most common way of getting rid of someone.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Without cause or warning— Standing you up for a date and simply never calling again. So, I never called him again, either.

Moving out while he was at work, but leaving a note and an engagement ring. I did that because I was afraid to try to move out while telling him I was leaving. It was cruel because he went off the deep end. There was no good way to end that one.

Possible trigger:

After luring you to their lair... seeing your body, rejecting you saying “I don’t want this”, and leaving you in an empty place to OD, abandoned.

. Then, when you come to, they have unfriended you on fb!

Yeah standing someone up is so disrespectful.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yep that seems to be the most common way of getting rid of someone.

Once the abandoned person confirms the ghost person is not actually dead, then there’s no point to confrontation. Their message is loud and clear. Just awful.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Making you feel loved and like they are now going to be in a relationship with you, but then not calling again for months.

I feel like when people do this, in relationships and friendships, they are just being emotionally manipulative. Hate it when people do that.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Once the abandoned person confirms the ghost person is not actually dead, then there’s no point to confrontation. Their message is loud and clear. Just awful.

Totally agree. Very aweful.

[eclairparty98]

A particularly cruel way to end a relationship with someone you no longer like would be to spend a whole day, maybe a week, worshipping your partner, boosting their confidence, embracing intimacy and celebrating their body, making plans for the future - that type of thing.

And then finally when you're in bed together, after some intimacy, listening to your partner open up about their love and appreciation for you, how much fun they've had being with you, you get out of bed and tell them it was all a lie. Laugh in their perplexed face and tell them they're worthless, insult their nude body right there on the bed. Then calmly leave, emphasising the point that you really don't care about them.

Haha, don't get any ideas! I'm hoping this is just out of curiosity

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Totally agree. Very aweful.

I felt so proud of myself that I never called him again either. I didn’t give him the sick satisfaction he wanted to further reject me while boosting his ego. Arrogant SOB