There's a couple people in my life that I kinda want to quit being friends with. Unless they try to listen to me and apologize for the way they treated me I'm just gonna cut them out of my life. I don't want to be around people who don't listen to me and just talk down to me. I have a hard time telling them how I feel though. I've tried doing it with one person before but I couldn't say anything. I feel bad and kinda stupid for not telling someone I don't really want to be around them if they're going to treat me like that. I have to call one of them cause they live far from me now. I want to call them and get this off my chest cause I'll feel better if I do. It's just really hard to do. Should I just call them and say how I feel? The other one is harder to confront though and I just can't tell him how I feel at all. I don't trust him. I have a hard time trusting people.

I think it can be very healthy to tell a friend why you are ending the relationship. That way either things can be fixed, or they have an answer and can make peace with it. If they were good friends at some point, I think talking to them is good. It is so hard, but to me it feels like the right way to do it.

[hvert]

Both options, telling the person and not telling the person, are fine options. I hope it works out well for you. You'll have more space for relationships with trustworthy people when you put an end to these bad friendships.

Originally Posted by hvert

Both options, telling the person and not telling the person, are fine options. I hope it works out well for you. You'll have more space for relationships with trustworthy people when you put an end to these bad friendships.

I'd really be hurt if a good friend ditched me without saying anything. I think ghosting people is pretty cowardly, if you ever cared about them.

[TishaBuv]

Maybe you can talk about it and repair the relationship.

I have a life-long friend who can get really toxic. But, now, I don’t let her get to me any more. She has a caring, wise, and funny side that keeps me her friend.

She has a problem. I know it and learned how to handle her after all these years.

Whatever feels right to you is what you should do.

[hvert]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I'd really be hurt if a good friend ditched me without saying anything. I think ghosting people is pretty cowardly, if you ever cared about them.

That's a really good point. At the same time, sometimes the safest option is to quietly escape. We don't owe people who abuse or mistreat us an explanation for leaving. I don't know the specifics of OP's situation.